Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

The biggest problem you face in life is how to deal with problems. On a daily basis we face problems and learning how to manage your problems is what separates winners from losers. The trouble with problems is new ones keep popping up, your life will never run out of problems, as one problem goes away up comes another one. To live a fulfilled and happy life you will have to become good at problem solving. How do you become a master at problem solving?

If at any time in your life you encounter a problem your first notion is to worry about the problem, but that is not the right way to go about this. Making the problem a daily ritual is what creates more stress on a day to day basis. To understand this process you will have to realize that what we think about all day long becomes a part of our life. If we focus on a problem, then our life will have nothing but more problems to deal with, because the more we worry about the problem the more problems will arise at that moment.

Problem solving involves a pattern of thinking, and this has nothing to do with education, but more to do with focusing on the solution. You have to actually see the solution before your eyes, and then take baby steps towards solving your problem.

Many people have problems and all they do is rant on and on about their problems and never actually sit down to face their problems. They run from the problem instead of dealing with the problem. I have never seen any problem solve it’s self, if that was possible the world would be a problem free place, unfortunately i’s not that way. you have to find your own method for solving your own problems, and no matter how bad you think your method is, it’s better than no method at all.

Don’t focus on the cause

As you encounter a problem in your life, it could be a health problem, skin problem, a social problem or any problem for a matter of fact, you will have to learn to not focus on the problem. forget the cause and don’t keep blaming yourself. That problem exist because you made a bad choice, or it was something that was supposed to just happen (that is my simple version for not blaming myself, I just say it was to happen to me), whatever the case, it’s not important. What is really important now is how to change your mind from focusing on the problem and getting your mind to focus on a solution or many different solutions.

The most important point is to not do any finger pointing and try to blame what has happened on anyone else, and that also mean to not yourself. The problem came to life, because something went out of sync, and that means it is time for you to redesign, change and come up with new ideas to improve your life and get rid of this problem.

That is why big thinkers are so great at solving problems, they can turn any problem into a solution, they don’t see problems, they tend to look for solutions within the problems. that is why it is so easy to spot great managers, they come up with ideas and try to get the ball rolling, they never try to pin the problem on anyone, they accept failure and don’t dwell on it.

No problem just arise on a first come first off notice. It has been brewing for some time, one thing leads to another, but unaware to you, this problem has taken on a life of it’s own and when you least expect it is when it strikes. Just like how the problem manifested, so will the solution, but you have to start making small little preparations in your mind as to how you will deal with this problem.

Sometimes, certain problems are are not repairable, and in that case it is best to abandon and forget about that issue, it makes no sense trying to fix what is out of your league.

Let me give an example, a simple one to understand what I am trying to explain, let’s say a discussion takes place between two friends about another’s best friend. one says something that the other said, and then it gets back ot the other friend. That friend confronts their friend and the friendship gets destroyed because of a simple they say we say and no one actually said. This is common, but as you can see if no one takes the first step to say look what broke up our friendship and no one gives in, then that friendship will be lost forever.

Another example from a business standpoint that I have witnessed; Let’s say we have a problem with a system, and we need to come up with a solution fast. The easy way out is when everyone blames the guy that was making changes at that moment. When I arrived one the scene I asked each and everyone what the issue was and what they think, everyone points fingers at the other. At the same time, the problem would have been solved much easier if the persons involved spent the same energy looking for a solution instead of trying to blame each other at that moment. This is something I deal with daily, and I never ever get involved in the finger pointing game, I solve the problem, and seldom ever say who was at fault, especially if it was another employee who overlooked something.

One more thing to remember is that not all problems have causes, not all causes can be corrected and fixed. So looking for causes is not wise, and won’t fix the problem.

My way of solving problems

As stated before, everyone has to find what works for them and continue to educate yourself and come up with better methods for doing things. I have learned a lot and continue to learn each and everyday of my life. I analyze what works and what doesn’t work. I have adapted many things in my life for better, and witness many issues in my past that affected my own performance. Life is about adjusting and improving what isn’t working on a day to day basis.

The first thing I noticed with people who can’t solve problems is that they are very unsure of themselves and have a hard time taking action, I should say they don’t know how to come up with taught producing patterns that caters towards the solution. To fix any problem, you will have to start by changing something, and I usually start with the changes in my mind. In simple words, forget about the cause, and just focus in your mind on what works, and what would be the best solution.

Whenever I am confronted with a problem, I usually analyze the situation by thinking about the cause, this is a brief analysis. I then just accept what happened and focus on a way out. I don’t ever blame myself or try to make anyone see it my way. My method is to ask myself a series of wise questions:

1. What could I have done to avoid this?
2. What can I do now to better this situation?
3. What have I been overlooking?
4. What will make this better right now?

As you can see I am preparing in my mind the solution and at the same time a way to prevent this from happening again. You will also have to come up with your own winning questions, those are mines, use if you like, once you get good at this, you will come up with questions that brings solutions with the first question you ask yourself.

No matter what you do from there, just follow your mind and the solution that was given to you at that moment. Just start with your own problem solving methods. No solution is the worse answer, just start with small improvements and the big picture will be drawn and before you know it you will have solved your own problem and your next problem will be in the making. Learn to deal with problems, life is filled with em, the better you are with problem solving the higher up the ladder you will get in society.

It will all become much easier, and you will get better and better at solving your own problems. Just take action…