Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

This was my most challenging blog post to write, but I just had to get it off my chest, and I know it would relate to many people and help them find a solution to the things your feeling or thing your mind is so obsessed with that for years has been hampering your overall growth.

Have someone ever done you something or you did something that you harbor negative feelings or thoughts about?

Sometimes we sit and see everything from our point of view and we seldom reflect the other person. It may seem all right to you, but do you ever honestly hear what the other person has to say? Sometimes without honestly knowing, we hurt people and those people have really negative feelings towards us. Just seeing you makes them change moods and become quiet or they may just walk away by your presence. You have no clue what is happening here, because this person never ever told you what you did them.

It can also be something that one person does on a daily basis that irritates another person, and that person just hates when you come around because they know that you will do that irritating behavior that will just turn them off. Overtime that person will have negative feelings whenever they see you.

These feelings can also be harvested for something as simple as going to the mall with someone else, it doesn’t have to be towards another person. It can be the weather, the cold, your old car, a piece of furniture in your home or something really stupid for all you know. But, it is something that makes you feel bad or puts you in a negative mood anytime it occurs.

How do we turn on those negative thoughts?

The process of how we create those negative feelings about something or someones is very easy. The hard part is loosing those feelings, which we will discuss further in this article.

So how did we get so negative?

Our mind is the culprit, we let our mind control our moods and if something as stupid as trash in your front lawn irritates you and set you in a bad mood, then I can picture what goes through your mind at that time. It sets your mood for the day, and sometimes it is only for a couple minutes, and for other people it can be the whole day.

The mind is so powerful that it lets us think about something in such a strong manner that we feel goose bumps all over our skin. This is how your mind takes over the whole body, it turns on your negative emotional signals, and you just start feeling disgust and grumpy. This whole process happens in a matter of micro seconds and you have no clue what takes place in your body, but, once you start paying attention to this state of mind, you will be able to control the whole process and realize that your mood change came from that one action you processed in your mind.

Getting rid of negative feelings

Life gets better as we learn to think faster and speak slower, because we will actually think about another person feelings before we open our “blabbers” and just say what we want.

Getting rid of those negative feelings is easy once we start to see and think different about what we are facing. Just look at it differently and realize that this is just part of life. Try to see something positive from your negative feelings and put it through another set of eyes. You will honestly start to see god in every bad situation or bad feeling that occur. You will start to take control of your mind and not let your mind take control of you.

My negative feeling that I have been living with

For years now I had borrowed some money from someone (Telling a little white lie now, because I don’t want to say who it is, but they will know, because I know they read this blog), and for years I wished that I could pay it back. There has not been one day in my life that went by that I didn’t think of this, but for nothing good, my life was getting any better. I just wasn’t thinking right, and I was setting myself back by focusing on paying back the money, and seeing it as a problem and not coming up with a solution to pay it off.

The more negative feelings I got about this money that I owed, the more it would make me feel small. I just had no clue how to tell them that I would pay it back, because I actually never saw any means of how I could pay back that money. So, I just simply never said anything, anytime I saw them I got more upset with myself, but I never showed my true feelings. I just wished I could have said something, but the words would not come from my mouth.

Now I am moving on and getting rid of these negative feelings and resolved to think different about the money I borrowed, to start I will list the positive I saw in that experience:

• I will pay back that money by mid June 2008, you got my word on that
• I will never lend money from anyone I know in my life again, that’s why they created banks
• It shows how much I have grown that I can honestly give a time to pay it back
• Say no, if it is being offered, because you first have to make a plan on how to get what you want without help from anyone
• These things happens in life, but once you pay it back, your life will propel forward

We sometimes take things for granted and seldom realize how much we hurt people by our actions, and this article has set forward a motion for me to go and repay the money I owed. It was one of my road blocks that has kept me down. I should honestly say, the only major road block. But I see things differently, and I am a man of my word.

The article I have just written was part of The Challenge, and I am very glad to have been tagged, and that is why I wrote this article. You can read more below to find out about the challenge. Thanks Priscilla Palmer for the personal development resource list. The only blog I actually read was that from Steve Pavlina. Now I will have many more to read.

The Challenge

The Think Different Challenge is all about finding something in your life you currently have negative thoughts or feelings towards (eg work or your mother-in-law), and decided to look at it differently. It is about realizing that some things are just a part of life, so we may as well try to find the positives in them.

Who Can Participate?

This is an online writing project, so anyone who can publish text and active links on the internet can participate. Having your own website or blog is not a requirement, just write a post with links in your favorite social networking site.

The Rules

1. Write a new blog post in which you “think different”. Follow my suggestions above, or be a bit different and interpret the challenge the way you want .

2. State that the post is a part of the Think Different Challenge and include a link and/ or track-back to this post so that readers know the rules of the challenge. Feel free to use the above banner (inspired, of course, by Seth Godin).

3. Include a link and/ or trackback to the blogger who tagged you.

4. At the end of your post, go ahead and tag some fellow bloggers. Don’t forget to email them to let them know they have been tagged.

5. That’s it! Just sit back and enjoy reading peoples’ responses to the challenge.

Who Tagged Me?

Tristan Loo from http://www.SynergyInstituteOnline.com tagged me, and I am glad to be part of this project.