Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

From a very young age, you have been told to go to school, get good grades, graduate with top honors and then land one of those big paying wonderful JOBS. It is all nice and dandy, and really makes a lot of sense, so tell me why so many people are unhappy where they work?

Didn’t they do the things I described above?

I am having a hard time understanding why this is happening and why this is going wrong for so many people, or better said; Let’s stop worrying about why, and start thinking about how to change this. I don’t know if there is any particular thing anyone can do to change this today, but, what you need to know is that it all starts with you.

First, let me just say that JOBS comes and goes, and so does life…

What I really mean with that sentence is that we seldom sit down and picture where our life is going, what we are really doing to change things for the better or how our health is really being affected by the adapted attitudes we have on our job, or even how to perform better under less stress. If you would spend a little more time analyzing the situation and a lot less time criticizing, you would see that your work environment and your boss would also change.

Sometimes the change needed to turn things around, starts with… you. Yes, your the cause of everything good or bad that happened in the past or is happening in your life at this present moment.

I have been a victim of this, and with victim, I do mean that I was on a mission with no end in sight. The moment I decided to stop focusing on me, to stop working so hard and to start working smarter, is when all things turned around.

Do you grasp what I am saying here?

The situation on your JOB can change, stop being a slave to your job, and coming to work with a bitter face. Let go of the trigger, and release the tension, your not at war. Stop being so swift to use your tongue and lash out at people, just listen, that is all it takes to make this happen once you understand that your not always right, and no one even cares if you are.. Before the break of dawn, you will start to see a turn around, not only on your job, but in your life as well.

How many of you can honestly say without thinking, I am working my dream JOB?

I know you paused for a brief moment there, as your mind wondered off to draw that perfect picture in your mind. Please allow yourself some extra time if you need, it’s important. I myself, can’t say that I am living the life of my dreams, because I had to go through a lot of organizational change as well as attitude changes.

Is this what I want to do for the next 20 years?

To be totally honest, if my writing was paying the bills and gave me enough to live an enjoyable life, then I would be doing this with a smile. But, it’s not, and that is why I will continue to do this part-time while I continue to put forward my best effort on the job, until that big day. It really motivates me and encourages me to press on with a big broad smile on my face when people tell me how much they enjoy reading what I write, and that I should continue to write and to never stop.

The way to go about life is to make sure you enjoy life, because life passes by with the wink of an eye, and I do hope you won’t be caught reflecting back on what you didn’t do, it will be too late. Your Job is just a meant to help you, it not an end to all means, so don’t fight about it, it’s not yours nor mines. So just enjoy your work while you still have life.

I had a week-end of much joy and sorrow at the same time. I attended a funeral of a very young colleague/friend and that intrigued me to write this article. At some point in your life you will be confronted with many decisions, some that effect your judgment and your thinking. You will be held captive by your own mind and you will not know what to do or how to deal with the problems your facing. It is then that you will need to stop thinking so much and start living.

If you look at someone from the outside, it always seems great, but when you really get to know someone you will discover the many problems that they have been dealing with on a day to day basis.

Stress creeps in when your not looking and it is the cause of a problem so severe that it makes you ill. It is actually your mind that is making you ill. You have to learn how to speak your mind and stop thinking so much. You should not build stress because your trying to be a very nice person and not hurt anyone feelings. Your hurting more than you think, when your afraid to speak your mind.

The nicest person and the most quiet person you know is always thinking and afraid to say what’s on their mind. You do yourself more harm than good by not speaking out.

Fact is, you believe that by not saying anything you won’t hurt anyone, your actually hurting someone very close…

…yourself.

Why is it important to say what’s on your mind?

I myself has been in situations, where I did not speak my mind and I have seen the problems it caused. But the problem was not caused by what I did say. it was caused by what I was constantly thinking of, what I did not say, and how I began to avoid certain people because I just wanted to keep out of their way and stay as far away as possible.

The solution I choose was no good, because I spent more time thinking about what I should have done and never took the time to really correct that problem. I went on with my life, but now, I have guilt feelings for not saying what I wanted. I honestly know the method I chose was not solving anything, and as time went by, I just left it alone. Today that problem is still lingering in the air, and I don’t think it will matter anymore, because the damage has been done.

I could have simple said what I wish, but I choose instead to walk away.

Here is the reason why: At times I felt the moment wasn’t right, but you know what?

The moment of speaking your mind never came, and I know how hard it is when my mind dictates, but the truth is that when you speak out, you get to hear others point of view, and that is the loss, I never really heard what they where thinking.

Spend more time living and less time…

thinking about the things that doesn’t make you happy. It is all about being happy. All the money in the world can’t make you happy. If you only learn to analyze and do things differently, you can really enjoy a much healthier and wealthier life.

As grown ups, we tend to lie, because we are afraid to hurt another persons feeling, but the one we are hurting is ourself. I am sorry, but the lies creates even more problems, and makes you live a more confused and hidden life.

When someone under 40 dies of a heart attack, it should make each and everyone of us think. It made me wonder what caused this and why should someone so nice go so soon? The answer may be right in front our nose, but at times we are so caught up in our own world that we fail to see the cause.

The bottom line is, they have never really started to live, never enjoyed life, left many loved ones behind, and that’s because they have been worrying so much about what others think of them and never saying what’s on their mind. So in all honestly, being a little self-fish and thinking of yourself first is a good thing.

Many times this friend told me how much she hated her boss, but never once did she let him know. Why?

I just wished I could answer the why, but, I do believe she should have. Because this boss showed up to her funeral, to show his deepest respects. That leads me to another point…

Do you believe that he was showing his respect?

I do believe he was. He would call her all kinds of names, insult her, degrade her and yet she would respect him no matter what. I am not that nice, I believe in speaking my mind, and when I speak, I do it nicely, but the style of wording that I use hurts. I don’t bend the truth, I just say it in a nice manner, nice enough for you to realize that you can’t say what you please to me, because I will let you know how I feel.

Makes you wonder, why we treat others in such a nasty inhumane manner and believe that we are doing them good.

If your not trying to instill greatness in someone or make them feel better about themselves, then just don’t say anything.

Now a word for the wise:

Spend more time loving yourself and others, and less time thinking about love. Just say something nice or do a nice deed every so often. As the years go by, many relationships become very bitter, each waiting for the other to do something nice, and in the end both of them suffers and no one wins. It is do or die, love each other or walk away. No ifs, nor buts. Love is about trust, and I will have to go into this one more deeply.

I have heard many people saying your thoughts are so powerful, well believe it or not, your thoughts have absolutely no power. You create your thoughts and what you do with them is what gives them life.

I believe your much better off controlling your thoughts, and not assuming what others are thinking or saying.  The only way to know this, is once you think or hear something about someone, confront the person and let them know how you feel. You will be surprised that your the one who has ill thoughts most of the time.

I am also not saying that every thing can be talked over, some people are to stubborn to even consult with. In that case just let it be and don’t think about it. Be nice to them and try not to show your ill feelings, don’t ever live one day of your life bittered by someone deeds.

Enjoy each day, and make the best of it! 

A great gift you have is the ability to make your day before you live it.

Your going to love this. Plan your day ahead in your mind, see a nice day and ignore the problems that your facing. Don’t even think about them. A solution will come to mind once you don’t dwell on the problem. Make each day worth living, make new friends, just be more friendly. Your days will only get better.

Now go out there and live life to it’s fullest, enjoy each and every day and be thankful. You don’t know when it will be your last.