Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

If life comes full speed at you, would you just duck?

We all wish it was that easy, but let’s demonstrate today how tough it is growing up in a society where Moms and Pops work two jobs, kids are left alone at home to vend for themselves.

A Teenager Struggling To find Her Place In Society

About a year ago, I had a student coming by me for extra classes in maths, she had a very bold type of attitude, she dressed as if she was angry with the world. As she sat down on the table where we would begin our first math lesson, I glanced at her and asked, you look like your carrying the world on your shoulders. Tell me whats wrong?

She answered very swiftly with a grumbling sound, I could hardly make out what she said. I told her that we can’t have any type of success with that type of mindset that your showing at this moment. For you to succeed you will need to change that attitude and adapt a winning attitude, one where I can see how badly you want to pass your exams, and that’s the only way you will get it.

Months went by, and she kept coming to classes on a weekly basis, one day she said this is the first time she has actually had the courage to speak out. She told me that: “She used to cut her wrist and was actually thinking that she would be better off dead.”

Well, I was stunned, I had no clue that such a young girl would be thinking on suicide. As months went by, I kept feeding her positive ideas and showing her that she can make it. I told her that for every bad deed you commit in life, there is at least 10 people who loves you that will hurt.

Her attitude changed slowly every passing week and she was really going for gold, all her grades were up and we were getting ready to take the final exams. All of a sudden she showed up one day with her eyes filled with tears, and told me that her brother told her she is wasting her time and that she would fail again. Her step father told her that she won’t ever pass and leave this Island, she would be stuck right here.

Determination That Guarantees Success

Well, I was so shocked, I told her well I guess your parents and your brother had no clue how determined I can be with anyone who wishes to achieve more out of life.

What was more confusing to me is that these people were paying for my services and they were putting her down at the same time.

I asked her one question: How badly do you want to pass?

Well, the answer was enough to make me push her to the brink of exhaustion, we would go over every subject she had, I was giving her extra classes in subjects I had way back in high school. I told her that if she failed, I would also feel like a failure. And we pushed on and on.

The day of exams came, and her bro delivered his first punch and told her, we are looking forward to the tears.

There is a little secret I failed to tell at the beginning, which I eventually should have said. This girl had failed this same exam twice before. Where do you get the skills to pass something that you have failed twice before?

I was very scared that she wasn’t going to pass Biology, because she was very weak in this subject. But, I just couldn’t show it. Deep down in my soul I was hoping that she would pass the other subjects and that we would do the second exams in Biology.

If You Fail, Just Try Again

The results was in. She was scared, their was a delay in giving her the results. And she got totally rude and abused the examination committee. Man, when it has to go wrong it will. she called me that day, and explained what happened, I told her that she has to go and write an apology letter, and deliver it in person to the committee.

Her attitude was getting the best of her, and she didn’t even know it, her parents couldn’t even control her, because they didn’t know how to talk to her.

A couple days later, the results were finalized and surprisingly she failed, but was given a choice to do a re-examination in Biology or Dutch. Wow, what a call, her parents told her to go for Biology, and she told them she has to ask me what I think.

I told her parents, she sucks for Biology, there is no way she will ever pass that subject, we can still pass if she would only score 60 percent for Dutch. So, she did do a second exam for Dutch.

She got a call a week later, and her face glowed like a light-bulb. She passed and was leaving this Island to further her studies. She smiles form her first victory, many more to follow, once she keeps her focus.

Will power, and focus with the right guidance is what makes success a very easy ritual.

Parenting Is Not A Skill We Were Born With

Many parents today don’t grasp what it takes to bring kids into this world and nurture and encourage them to be the best they can be. We are faced with many teenagers going to prison on a daily basis. But, who should we blame?

The honest truth about the neglect many kids are feeling is so wide spread that it amazes me that many parents can’t see that all these kids want is a little love and attention. Be patient with your kids, you was once a teenager, you know what to do, you have walked this road before. You know that buying expensive gifts isn’t what makes them be better kids.

Communicate more often with your kids, spend time playing simple games, have fun and let them practice their speaking skills with you, that is what creates leaders in our community. Kids that have been able to speak out from young are the strong leaders of today.

Stop letting strangers guide your kids, it should be family members that has the most influence. Family should stay together and build stronger bonds.

The truth be told: There are no fast balls thrown in life, so your kids can’t duck, but there is a scarcity of love and communication, so throw some love and affection, they can catch that.