Most Educated People Have No Social Skills
Written by Alex Marlin on October 13, 2007 – 2:23 am -This article is not to step on anyone toes, but I have to make my point very clear as far as dealing with educated people and their social skills. I must admit that most educated people are very arrogant, they seem to always think they are right, they are very conceited, they do as if the world revolves around them.
As far as learning is concerned, I do believe we can learn from any person on this earth if we would only learn to speak less and listen more. When you have a conversation with a educated person, just pay keen attention to how they try to twist and give comments on a topic which they know so little of. You would seldom hear them say they don’t know. It is as if they believe that you have to know everything.
I must admit that educated people are very boring when it comes to socializing, they just can’t have a simple conversation without bringing up their work, school days, what they accomplished so far and any other out of sync topic. They live in their own world, small little shell and you will hardly ever see anyone having a happy moment with them.
They Are The Worse Managers Of Any Company
When we think of managing a company or being the manager of any department, we will surely confront some really “awful” educated managers. They run their department with the style of a dictator, anything they say goes. They hardly ever listen to any of their colleagues, and even when you recommend something they do as if you never said anything worthwhile. A couple days later they bring up the same topic and use your points as if they came up with those suggestions.
They are always trying to show their powers by insulting you in front of everyone else. When it comes to authority, they don’t have a clue how to deal with adults. They treat everyone like kids, and that shows why they are the most sorrowful fathers. Their kids never respect them and so do their colleagues.
They are hated by most within the company and the most amazing part is that they can’t even see nor understand why no one appreciates them. I have seen many such managers in my time, and I always smile when I encounter another one of those “educated dawn fools” like my Mom would say. My Mom always told us that education is just a starting point, being honest and truthful is what makes you a much better person. Don’t leave education blindfold you and make you self centered, show respect and listen to others and they would extend the same favor. The truth be told: ” Do onto others as you would have them do onto to you.”
I must admit, my Mom wasn’t the most educated person, but she really had a way with words, and has been a big influence in my well being.
They put lies in front of loyalty
When speaking with an educated person, half of what they say is untrue. They are so always trying to make it seem as if they are in total control, but we can see that they are full of it. My former boss, the one with the “big Head” was such a arrogant Jack in a box, that he wasn’t even smart enough to decipher when he was being played like a fool. We had a main password to the switching system, and he insisted that the login name be his name. See the arrogance. Another colleague changed the password.
One morning he came over to our department and he wanted to know the password to the system, so we all started smiling, because we wanted to see how the colleague would pull this off. The colleague who knew the password stepped forward and said, let me see if I can recall it. He told him the login name, and started to spell out the password. He said; B-I and then he would pause, then he said G-H and he paused again, gave him one more letter E and said AD. Now he was so smart that he even didn’t realized that it was… “BIGHEAD”. That is what I call managing with one eye and no ears. Do you think he knew?
We once asked him why he was always giving people a run around and not telling them the truth, and his famous reply was that you have to always B.S. people. That way you are always on top of everything. Well, if you ever met this guy, you would understand how on the top he was. His body size and his big head are the only thing you would see first as he walked down the hallway. His head swayed from left to right as he walked.
His style of managing was filled with lies and no trust. You just couldn’t figure out how this manager functioned, but he honestly believed he was doing such a great job. You would constantly catch him with one lie after another. Is that managing?
When It Comes To Business Educated People Don’t Have What It Takes.
If we count the amount of none educated millionaires in the world, it is very amazing to see why these people make it and some of the best professors in the world are just teachers or work for an none-educated person and have no business skills whatsoever. That is the part that has puzzled me for many years. I have a brother who hated school and is one such successful business person. I started to observe they way he did things and how his taught processing worked. The most amazing skill he had was to always come up with ideas and follow through. He was very good at asking how to do things, and he listened to all what you had to say.
He got all his ideas by listening and asking questions, and would follow through with his idea. His ego was never a problem and showed every one respect and was not trying to make himself come across as a “smarty pants”.
Let’s take the Internet today, and you will see that most of the people making most of the money online are not educated. They have a nack for picking up ideas and sticking with them. They are very good at socializing and communicating with people.
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February 19th, 2009 at 5:08 am
I came across this article by accident, to be honest, and the title drew me in.
I felt compelled to comment on how you lumped all “educated” people together in this article. There are a lot of brilliant people in the world, educated and uneducated. Each person has his or her own strengths and weaknesses. Granted, some strengths and weaknesses do come packaged together often, such as technical abilities and weakness in social skills, strong analytical ability and poor understanding of abstraction (the bigger picture), etc.
Folks just aren’t wired the same; some relate well to facts and strategies, others relate well to people and concepts. Some people have strengths or weakness in all of these areas. But to classify people according to whether or not they went to college, or whatever you mean by “educated” (you never specify) is extremely short-sighted and does not account for the infinite other factors in a person’s life that may cause them to behave, or not behave, in a certain way.
There are many people in the workforce today that attended college on their parents’ dime, where they partied a lot, learned very little, passed by the skin of their teeth, and now have upper-management positions. It is almost always true that your manager will know less about your specific job than you do. It is not his/her job to do what you do. It is his/her job to manage. Whether you feel that he/she does that well or poorly, try to remember that being a manager usually sucks. If something goes right, it’s the employee’s accomplishment, if something goes wrong, it’s the manager’s fault. I think that if you scratch the surface of the most arrogent person, insecurity will spill out. Think about it: when a manager presents someone else’s ideas as thier own, who is fooled? Usually, no one. Workers, who may have never seen the inside of a college but who know and do their jobs well, can be authentically and rightfully proud of what they do. The manager is only trying to convince his/herself of his/her own competance, which is a pretty sad existance. I’d rather sit in my little office and get no credit than to foolishly claim other’s accomplishments as my own in a futile delusion of grandure.
Just some things you may want to think about. It sounds like you have a clear mind and are in touch and at peace with who you are, so it’s easy to forget that most people do not have the luxury of such clarity. Do not take it for granted, or poke fun of those who have not reached it and maybe never will.
I think tolerance is the first step of true understanding, as well as the key to putting up with really, really annoying bosses.
~K
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July 23rd, 2009 at 8:21 pm
I think I will concur with the comments here. However, I tend to think that improvement in one’s weak areas largely depend on their level of self awareness. If they live in denial and never seek to understand before they are understood, then they may forever make mistakes and by extension exhibit poor social skills. This is a good debate, keep it up. Hope my comments are not belated.
December 26th, 2009 at 10:55 am
i think Alex may be right about the particular person he is dealing with.But people vary and it may not be true about other managers.
Good Managers are never such type.Your manager might be an incompetent and knowledgeable person.To hide their weakness they come like this.