I Am Not Trying To Belittle No One
Written by Alex Marlin on October 27, 2007 – 1:29 am -This blog is creating quite a roar and I am honestly shocked by the response that I have been receiving from certain people. The truth be told, about the why and how this whole blog came to past.
I got a idea, and I bought a couple of domains. I had this domain www.AlexanderMarlin.com with my own name just there redirecting to certain simple sites. I wanted this domain name to stand out, and after reading a couple blogs and other peoples web sites the idea for “Life Improvement Tips For Thin And Small People” was born. This is what this website was all about and will continue to improve upon.
The Critics, The Emails, The Comments And Their Views
I am in now way trying to be little or harm anyone with the content being published on this blog and as you may have noticed I have removed certain articles. I know not everyone will agree with my style of writing, but I am not here to please anyone nor have I been trying to bring down anyone.
At certain moments in time while I am here sitting on my computer and my fingers is going mad striking away at the computer, I write my notes. sometimes I edit my writing and at other times, I just let it flow and hit the publish button.
I honestly respect the comments and the responses this site has been receiving and I thank all who see, read and like or are motivated by what I write. I am honestly shocked to see how fast the news has spread about this site, but then again, I understand because this not your ordinary everyday St. Maarten boy your talking about.
As for the critics, I have received one email stating that a “Shrink” has made comments explaining that she sees me as suicidal based on one of the messages I have so far removed form the site. I must say this, you have no clue who I am or what I stand for. You should wish to meet me one day, because I have nothing but joy and a nice smile that carry me through this world. No offense, I love and inspire my kids daily, what type of role model would I be if I was planning on killing myself. Thanks for being a critic, your the type of educated people I was referring to in my post, “Most Educated People Have No Skills“, because you are showing me exactly why I believe educated people make judgments and simply lack vision.
Why I Removed The Articles
As I wrote before, growing up as brothers we were one strong family and while living in Holland we had a message made that read; “When Love Is The Message The Marlins Are The Messengers”. Many people loved that slogan, I can’t recall who came up with it, but we surely lived up to that slogan. My writings was not meant to hamper or bring down my Bro’s, I was just showing how we grew up and made a life for ourselves.
My brothers had a meeting with me and they explained to me what they didn’t like and I told them that I would remove the post, but I must state this: “Readers, and this goes to my brothers also, stop reading between the lines, read the full article, there is a lot of truth in my words, stop feeling offended. I am not here to hurt or make anyone look small.”
I know my Mom understands me and I know she knows that I would in no way put her down or try to harm her parenting skills. As I stated before, she did it her way and her only wish was for her kids to be educated and powerful men that would be respected.
I wonder what she would have done with her daughter if she had one?
OK, enough of that rant, let’s see where this blog is heading…
The Future Of This Blog
I am planning to really continue to instill in skinny, thin and small framed people the power to continue to shine no matter what your size or height. I believe that anyone can be a great person, as it all start within and by the amount of love you have for yourself.
If you don’t love yourself, then I would advise you to start reading this blog on a daily basis, because you can’t get anyone to love if you have no self LOVE. That four letter word packs a lot of power, and to love yourself is what keeps us from self destruction. One you have an endless love for yourself and you strive for nothing but the best, then you will have what it takes to be loved.
At certain times during the day, my mind is very clear. I make it a promise that when I am working I focus on my JOB, but once I am on my way home, my mind starts racing with excitement. I am using all my energy to come up with another topic that will boost my self and show the quality of this blog and the power of my words.
To end this post, I have a couple words to say; “I will always remain who I am and no one can change that, but I have been growing on a day to day basis. For my readers, please continue to provide the comments and the emails, send me questions if you wish and I would be more than glad to write about it, I will keep your name hidden from the public. I will not be using anyones name on this blog, because I am here to inspire, not slander.
I am no shrink, I can’t read minds, but I do follow my heart and try to do onto others and treat others like how I would like to be treated.”
Stop being a follower, step up your game and face your problems in a tactful manner, let people know what you think and stop living in a shell.
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October 27th, 2007 at 7:07 pm
Was kind of disappointed that you deleted that post, I found it was really good, but that is only in my eyes and from how I read your stuffs.
We all have different ways of thinking, which has to mostly do with the thoughts that we feed our mind on a daily basis.
I enjoy reading your site everyday, you give me inspiration about life. So keep up the good work, you are helping out more then you know.
Your # 1 fan
October 29th, 2007 at 3:23 pm
I am in no way shocked on the reaction of the people on SXM, Been there and go through it daily. They see deeper into a bad situation than they do in bringing out the good in anything. As I said before on another article, be yourself, speak your mind. If it happened to you and that is a life experience why should you not be able to vent and let it out. It’s not about letting dirty laundry out but its about just simply saying that not everything is what it seems. There is always a bigger picture.
Alex, what I have come to realise is people seek truth in gossip and when you speak your own truth they don’t believe you or think you are trying to stir up confusion.
On the tiny island of SXM, it is extremely important that people keep up to date with the gossip, thats why your site has stirred up so much talk, do you actually think that had it been a site on
October 29th, 2007 at 7:01 pm
I honestly appreciate you both speaking out. It pleases me to see that I even have a nr. 1 fan.
I admire people who stand up for what they believe in, and that’s the rule I live by.
It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks, but I know from within my heart, I had to let it out, just hate the way certain things just get twisted and left alone.
October 30th, 2007 at 12:59 am
Yes your blog caused an uproar but this uproar in my opinion was inevitable. In addition it did indeed sound a bit suicidal. Nevertheless I applaud you for sharing your inner thoughts and feelings however publishing names was not tactful and this is where the uproar came in.
It is obvious that each one of the 6 brothers have issues and deal with these issues differently.
The question still remains as to what or who caused the division amongst the brothers? The division did not come overnight. What was also not tactful was to discuss something that was never really discussed amongst your siblings, yet you choose to share it with the rest of the world. As you acknowledged in every negative there is a positive so perhaps the deleted blog will reunite the 6 of you.
Lack of communication, misinterpretation and unspoken hurt can cause many families to go there seperate ways. I urge you to continue to talk not only on your blog but to your brothers as well, not one but all of them. In addition a talk with your mother is also needed as she may not know what hurt she may have caused each of you.
Alex, you have placed yourself unknowingly as the key element in this dilemna if I may call it such.
Continue writing but again tactfully
October 30th, 2007 at 1:47 am
I was smiling when they actually told me about my article. But my brothers knows me, and they know that I am not ashame to say it as it is.
But, I must admit, that whatever I have today, my brothers has contributed in one way or the other.
Now, the name calling was a little overkill, but I just didn’t want it to be a quiz and have them guessing.
The part I admire most is that for six brothers growing up together we never had any physical fights. I think we all learned how to walk away from each other, once we dis agree.
As for my Mom, I don’t think she caused us no pain, we were made strong, and I mean really strong by the harsh methods she put forward. She knows how we feel about her, and the life she gave us.
We all laugh when we make jokes together about the way she raised us. Don’t read between the lines, each one of us is different, and I honor that.
My Mom always said, you can make 100 (one hundred) kids, and all will be different. So I believe her, and I live with that fact.
If anyone of my brothers even flashed in their mind that I would commit suicide, then it saddens me, and proves that we have really grown apart. Because I believe in myself, and won’t let my Mom ever have to live with the idea of one of her sons killing themselves. I won’t ever give anyone the notion that I am sad, so how in the world would they be able to picture me killing myself. I love being challenged, and I live to inspire my kids, I will live to see what they will become in life with my guidance.
Thanks for your reply, it is very inspiring.
October 30th, 2007 at 5:31 pm
I read your blog and I must say it was enlightening. You are not alone, many families in St. Maarten are dealing with what you discuss in your blogs. I admire you for doing something that few people do, SAY IT. I will keep reading, because honestly you have inspired me!!
April 10th, 2008 at 3:32 am
They call you Alex and I say Sappotong or Sap for years. I came across your blog by chance not even having the slightest idea of what you are busy with. This was about 18:00 and I am still here after 23:30 opening my mind and digesting your writings. We go way back and it gives me Goosebumps to read and appreciate your words. (even those goose bumps getting goose bumps). Sometimes a lot of us just do not want to hear the truth, we would rather hear only good things about ourselves as if life is only good and at all times.
I always say that “in every negative there is positive” We need to take that negative and ring it around into positive. Deep down I truly hope that you would continue to get the inspiration to keep ticking on your keyboard. You know a lot that you have been trough I have been there at times, like they say we go way back. You was a wicked little boy too yourself. What you say is not degrading in any sense as it was/is a life lesson that many of us would like to forget. Not keeping in mind that past is what made us strong today. Many would not have looked at middle region “our home town” and expect that we would be so outstanding today once they knew where we have been and came from.
I knew your mind was brilliant but now I know that half of your brains isn’t used yet. I wish that you continue to write and do what you believe in. I hope one day I would see you on a podium and lecturing some of our young troubled minds and giving them life lessons cause I know you have a lot to tell, the good, the bad and the ugly and that is what some of those bad ones need to hear also the good kids need reassurance and encouragement. I will be your manager ………………………………(joke). Consider doing something of the sort you have it in you. I see you’re a great writer and I have your site as my default.
I will be looking forward to this daily.
I wonder if Chaleco speaking trough you to the world
April 11th, 2008 at 2:16 am
Listen Scommae, don’t loose your sleep reading this stuff, your wife will love you more and she will start to blame me for that…
Speaking of a wicked boy, yes indeed I was and me and your Bro did many wicked things, but hey we used to have fun and really lived great.
You was always the nice guy, or should I say, “The Wolf in Sheep Clothing”, but none the less. We all did what we had to do and it worked out just great.
I will continue to write as I see it, and influence those that do desire a push.
Hey, thanks for the brilliant mind compliments, I have always known that, I didn’t know other people noticed as well… All smiles…
And speaking of being my Manager, hey I would love to work with you, you seem to have a great brain yourself, but to be honest, I would more like for us to be partners, than for one or the other to be called “The manager”…
I am thrilled by the lengthy comments you write.
And yes, hope we can start influencing some of the kids on our little island of St. Maarten… Keep your eyes open and ears sharp, you will be hearing, seeing and reading more about me…