Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

Just a couple days ago I saw my Mom, and at that moment I really realized how gracefully she is aging and just how strong she still is. At that moment I was fast forwarded into the future and I started to think. Will I be able to grow old and strong like my Mom?

At her age, she is still living on her own, taking care of herself, doing her own grocery shopping, doing her own laundry with the help of her maid, even cooking her own meals and last but not least, laughing and enjoying life and going to church every Sunday. She is really happy, and can keep a conversation going like a young mind. No one can really understand what it is to take of yourself, especially at a much older age when all your bones are so fragile. A simple fall and something will snap or break. And we all know that those old brittle bones don’t heal as well.

I am always teasing my Mom and saying how she walks like a Chinese woman in one of those tight CHEONGSAM dresses, and cautious she is. She goes out and tries to be home before sun-set, because she losses orientation after certain hours.

Until recently, while staring at her and thinking about the process of growing old and all the issues we have to yet face one day. I can say without a doubt, growing old isn’t easy. You have to honestly have it in your mind that one day you will grow old, and that the things that once was considered normal will now no longer be, everything will be like a heavy duty burden. My Mom, really copes very well with this. She doesn’t let nothing get in her way, and she tries to stay busy doing the things she deems important.

At time, she would call and say she locked herself out of the house, she would call just one of her sons, the one who answers first, or the first number that comes mind, he then would call the others until one close to her neighbor hood can pass by and open her door for her. We no longer worry with this, nor does she, it’s part of growing old.
Just a couple days back, she said that she lost her wallet, she made a joke of it, and said: “I have lost so many wallets, that I no longer walk with much money, $20 dollars is most the lucky finder will get!” Isn’t that positive motivation, that keeps you from thinking about how your messing up. She is constantly saying that her old computer isn’t working good, and that she understands this. Truthfully, I am amazed to see how well she deals with this, and how she acknowledges that she is no longer as strong and doesn’t try to even think about doing the things she used to do.

Suppose, just suppose, you was able to be placed for one day in her shoes, do you honestly think, you would be able to understand what those old folks face on a daily basis? It’s like your slowly living, everything is slowing down around you, or better said, everything is moving too fast for you.

I don’t believe your ready for that journey, and I don’t think you would survive for one day. I myself is not prepared to face life the way my Mom is facing it. I will have to really settle down and start seeing things from a different view, and I do believe that you will better prepare yourself to take on life the way she does, when you have lived a happy life.

As Mother’s Day is right around the corner, it made me think and reflect and put into picture the life my Mom now lives. Many people would only wish for what she has, because she has health and no pains. She moves around freely, and she have the love from many People on this little Island of St. Maarten.

Friends, family and her sons are always just a call away, at times she goes on trips with her Niece to places I myself have never been. I think she is a true pioneer of the belief that what you dish out, is what you will receive. She gave willingly and was always there to help people out, and that is why I think she is going to be strong until the end.

Can’t say when her reign will come to an end, but I can say one thing, she lived a fulfilled, happy, caring and loving life.

I sometimes wonder if there is one thing she missed in life, and at times the only thing that would come to mind is: “A Daughter”. I don’t honestly know, she was always a women of chosen words, she never said anything she didn’t want you to hear, and never showed favorites among her six sons.

Is there really one she liked better than the other?

I’d like to tell you more about her favorite son, but that would be a lie, because she always said that none of her kids was her eyeball. But deep down inside, one of us always believed that one was her favorite, and if you were to ask all six brothers, all would say a different name.

Enough, is enough, and it’s time for me to get back to reality, I don’t want to picture or even think of putting myself in her shoes right now. Here’s why, you and me have the choice to live life just like her and to reap the benefits when we grow old, but are we really doing that? Isn’t it time we start preparing for that day, by doing more of the things we take for granted like: smile more today, laugh for today, live for today, be generous today, be all you can be today, and enjoy everyday…

…and rest assured that you and I will have the type of life she has at her age.

OK, I can read your mind, your wondering how old my Mom is.

To find out, you will have to return to my blog, to read my post that I will send to my Mom for mothers day.