Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

The mind is our best and only secret weapon, it can make us or break us and that all happens based on what you are thinking about all day long. Keep that thought in mind for a moment, and focus now and think back on the last thing you had on your mind, and then go way back, and try to recall what you was thinking on during the day.

The concept is simple, the thought that is on your mind all day is that one thing you want in your life, and the trick here is to see how we are going to get that one thing to materialize and become a reality.

Many people don’t get this concept, so let’s take a journey together, travel with me back to the past, and I do mean way back. For those who are younger your journey will be much shorter, and for those who are much older, God bless you because your travel will seem like eternity… Just kidding…

We are going back to our teen years, that was when we was at a point in our lives when we wanted the world and was basically getting it.

How was that possible?

We discovered the power of asking, by asking a family member or our parents we got the things we liked and life was just great. As we grow older many of us tend to forget that we still have that ability within us. If you only knew that your power to ask never went away, so why did you stop. To get what you wish for in life, just ask, and don’t ever feel stupid for asking or be scared of asking. Many of us stop asking and close off ourselves from the world because of what others think.

There are no stupid questions, so ask away.

So what’s wrong with you today?

You loose the eagerness and desire to set goals and accomplish the things you want, you are basically acting like a robot, everyone is acting like the other and following or trying to accomplish the things they don’t really want in their life.

Who are the ones that succeed?

The people who have a goal and keeps it focused in their mind, but doesn’t take actions fails miserably. On the other hand the person who knows what they want from a very young age, or the one who is doing what he/she wants in life is considered a successful person. Stop the envy and stop competing with others, there is abundance in this world for all.

We become what we think about…

All you have to do is wait and work towards the dreams and thoughts you think about all day long. Stop blaming life on circumstances and start creating the circumstances for the life you want, create your own reality, believe that you will succeed, and you have no choice but to see success.

If you think about nothing, you become nothing…

So what’s wrong with the statement above?

To elaborate on that, I will give you an example… A simple example stems from the goals you set for yourself, without even knowing that your doing it. Look at the clothes your wearing now, would you believe that you went looking for those clothes, or someone bought them for you. The clothing you now wear, is because you actually created a picture in your mind of you dressing a certain way, and you created that reality. Do you see how easy this is?

This concept works well for big and small items, but certain items take longer and that is the problem many face and give up on their dreams, because they believe it should happen the very next day. It doesn’t work that way.

As you believe so shall it be done onto you…

To end today, I will leave you with the above statement, and it is the type of magnetism we have in our body, we attract the things we think about all day long. If your thinking about hurting your friend, in no time shall you be granted what you wish and someone will hurt you… yes, it is true, evil thought brings on more evil, but this time onto yourself.

Create a new mindset and start to live life with the thoughts of great things and the things you wish to have in your life.

The most destructive behavior you can have is…

To have self pity, feeling sorry for yourself, calling yourself the black sheep of your family, always saying that only bad things happens to you. Anything that you don’t like in your life can be turned around by asking your self different questions: How can I grow? — How can I become a better person? — How can I make more money? How can I… (fill in whatever you wish)

The trick is learning to appreciate what you have in your life, and I do hope your getting what I am saying here, accept yourself for who you are…

Enjoy todays video, it will give you a new look on life… Count your blessings and be thankful for what you have in your life. and think about what I wrote about faith - do not loose faith.

To be a better person in life does not take much effort, but more willingness on your behalf and your ability to adjust to change. You can improve your personality once you understand what it is that you wish to change. Many people try to hard to be everybody else, to please everyone and to be a friend to all. The easiest method that gets the best results is to be yourself. As I always state, you can be anything you wish, if you would only be yourself and love yourself more than anyone else.

Here are my top personality improvement tips:

1. Just be yourself - I hate it when I see others imitating people and not trying to be themselves. You can’t go through this life trying to be someone who your not. People give each other more respect when they know they can trust you and understand you. If your a quiet person, then don’t start being loud once your friends come around. You are you, and that is what people likes about you, they like you because your quiet. I have friends that are very loud, they can walk in a room and take over the crowd, but that is the way they are, and you know what, I appreciate that from them — I never try to be that way.

2. Relax more and enjoy yourself - Have you ever seen how tense certain people are when your talking with them. It is as if they are ready to fight no matter who is talking with the. You have to relax and take it easy, no one is trying to conquer your world. Those type of people are very hyper, and if you start a conversation with them, it’s best to agree and move on. No use to try and prove them wrong, you will loose that battle. Just relax and enjoy life, stop going around trying to prove who is right from wrong.

I have seen people get into conversations about things they have no knowledge of, and I would just listen and not say a word. Then they would turn to me and ask what I think. I always try to give a very brief answer and try to change the topic.

3. Put a smile on your face - There are two ways to go about this, one is to have a normal face without the smile (that is the trustworthy face) or a smiley face. Do you know someone who has such a face? I do, and these people are always happy. It just goes to show that a smile on your face can change your mood. So picture great things and keep yourself in a good mood.

4. Improve your dress code - The way you dress can really put you in a better mood. Don’t dress yourself like a rag doll, because it will make you feel like one. If you know of someone who is classy, then why not try and imitate them. You don’t have to go buying brand name clothes, but look around and start trying to improve your dress style.

Look for ways that will make you feel better. Walk with your head high and feel confident about yourself. Don’t put down yourself, and don’t let others put you down.

One thing I hate to see is people wearing their grandparents shoes. If that is you, get with the program. Buy yourself at least two pairs of dress shoes, and start adding a pair every couple of months. If things is tight then just buy one pair, but change it once it is worn. No need to wear them until the soles has wholes.

5. Come out of your shell - Start being a little more friendly and try to talking with people you don’t know. For this to work you will have to start doing things a little different than your accustomed to. You will have to start reading different books, looking at different programs. Just get in the know, that way you will be able to have a conversation about things you never knew before.

Even if the topic is something you have no clue about just listen, and ask questions about the topic. People love to show you how much they know, stop trying to take over the conversation, just become a more attentive listener.

6. Stop trying to be everyone friend - In this life you don’t have to be afraid of anyone, and you don’t have to be friends with all. Don’t do things to please people, do what you like and if someone doesn’t like that, then too bad. You have to understand that when you try to please, you will get stepped on. That way it will look like they like you, but in truth your just being used.

You just need a couple friends that are very close and just be cool with everyone else who you know. you not trying to build enemies, but you don’t have to have everyone as a friend. just greet and be nice, you don’t have to talk to all whom you meet, your not a politician.

7. Get yourself a cologne or perfume - You have to get this one right, if you want to look different and be different, then you have to smell different. Just go to any perfume store and buy yourself a perfume or cologne. You don’t want imitation, they smell awful. If your unsure what to buy, ask the sales people what’s new or what smells great, make them give you plenty of samples. Take your time and pick a scent that you like.

If you still unsure then don’t buy just yet, go back another time with a friend and ask for their honest opinion. When walking on the street and you smell someone with a nice fragrance ask what they are wearing, and go get one.

If you smell good, you will feel more confident, it will boost your ego.

8. Stop complaining - if someone comes to you with a complaint about someone or something, just listen and try to say the least possible. Don’t join them in their complaint ritual. Your trying to improve your life, and that means the less you complain the better it will be for you.

Complaints doesn’t solve problems, action does, so stop wasting your time and energy.

9. Get a more positive outlook on life - Stop being so negative and bringing more failure onto yourself. You have to get a more positive attitude and start seeing the good things that life has to offer. Spend less time worrying and more time doing, action is what makes this world go round and is what gets things done.

10. Start dishing out more of what you wish to receive - I have to give a good friend of mines credit for this one, and just had to mention it here. Your life is like a bank account. You can’t withdraw any money until you put in.

It all starts in your mind, if you want to improve your personality, you will have to do things that caters to those needs. You are what you think of all day long. Don’t sit and become a looser because of your negative attitude.

If you want to be loved, then you have to deposit love, that is the only way you will be able to withdraw love. If you want to live a healthier life, then start doing things that will improve your health. If you want a promotion on your JOB, then start doing things that will show your entitled to a raise and your boss will notice it. No A&* sucking here, that will not help you. No matter what you want in life, you will have to start making deposits before you can expect to withdraw.

Just be yourself and go prove to the world that you can be someone to look up to. You have seen my personality improvement tips, now start working on yourself. I can bet you that if you just pick two or three of the above tips, in a couple months from now, people will start to notice the change in you.

Do you know what that two letter word is? Why is it so powerful? And why doesn’t people use it?

To be a strong and confident person means that you know and use this powerful two letter word. Time has proven that one who has the power knows how to say, NO. Yes, that is the most powerful two letter word known to man, it drives home the point and makes people pause and rethink what you just said. I have to admit that many of my friends I speak with has no clue how powerful it is to say no.

I always grew up knowing this, and at times I honestly overused that word. I was kind of a selfish person and many people told me I didn’t care about anyone but myself. But, as time went by I got better and better at saying no. I soon realized that people hated that word. It is what I call a protection word, it protects you from anything wrong and shows people that they can’t use you.

To bring over this point is not very easy and I will try to give you some examples that I have seen myself that shows how powerful that word is.

If your a person that likes to please everyone, then you will be in for a treat right now. Take one of your friends whom you have always said yes to, and then on your next meeting, simply say no to whatever they ask. You might get a shock from the harsh reaction you will be given, but just do it and don’t be afraid.

Now let’s understand what we are trying to achieve here. Most people are always trying to get their own way, and that is why they hate it when someone says no. You are actually trying to see how the people around you reacts whenever you turn them down. Another statement that your making clear by saying no, is that your in control of your life, and you don’t walk to anyones beat. This is so powerful, yet many people ignore that. Your the sole owner of your life, and you should also be responsible for any and all decisions you make. And that is why you should also control what you wish to do and for who.

I was talking to a close friend of mines and I told him about that game I play with my kids, so that they would learn how to say no. He then told me that he just wished that he had that power. He said that many people just use him because he never refuses.

Isn’t that something great, he thinks that they are using him. The problem with him is that he has no clue what he just said. No one can use you unless you let them. When you do something for someone, do it from your heart, and that way you won’t feel used. It is the same power you have to refuse. If you don’t refuse, then that means you wanted to help, so then you can’t say they used you.

I can imagine you shaking your head right now, but don’t feel surprised, many of us just say yes, because we don’t want to hurt someone feelings. get used to hurting someone else by refusing, they will ask another and another until someone says yes.

Teaching yourself to say NO

I have a little game I play with my kids, and it’s called; “Say Now Week.” During this week, each and everyone of us is allowed to say no to whatever the other person request. My son is really the nice one, because when I ask something of him, he responds with the words: “Sorry, Daddy, I want to do it, but it’s no week, so you have to do it yourself.” You can sense how nice he is, because he gives you a reason first.

My eldest daughter on the other hand just says no, and smiles. My youngest, just likes the idea of no week, I am not to sure if she understands why we are playing this game. When anyone does something for the other, we just say, you loose, you did it, it’s no week.

The lesson that I try to teach my kids with this game is that you should never feel bad that you said no, if someone should get mad because you said no, then that isn’t a good friend to start with.

In my house this is just a game that we play once in a blue moon, but in real life you should play this game as well, it will make you stronger and more confident. Don’t do anything that you don’t want. Teach yourself how to say no in a nice manner. And smile while your saying it, that way it won’t come across in a harsh manner.

What is the use of saying no?

Many of the kids together go around following friends and end up getting in serious problems because they are afraid to say no. There was one such case where a couple friends would go out on a Friday night and drink until they got drunk, they did this each and every weekend. One weekend, a new friend came over to the house and he was asked if he wanted to go along. He told them that he didn’t want to, but they persuaded him to go along anyway.

One lesson you should also stick with is to always follow your mind. If you made up your mind, don’t change it for anyone.

As the night went along, this friend who never drank, also began drinking. He himself was blissed. They were heading home and they got in a terrible car accident. As strange as it may seem the one who got hurt was my friend, he broke his leg. He told me of this accident and I told him that I always try to follow my mind. So that should be a lesson for you to live by.

Many times in our life, we will be confronted with a bad situation and our heart will tell us that we don’t want to be part of this, but we let someone else decide for us what we will do. So from now on, just control your urges to say yes, and think twice before you do. Don’t ever do something that you will regret. Make a decision and stick with it.

A couple days ago, I saw a group of girls fighting, and one of the girls in the group watching the fight was someone I know very well, she was a student of mines. The fight was heating up and one girl hit the other one with a plank over her head. To my amazement the other friend stepped away from the fight and watched her friends go at it. Many would call her a coward, but I saw how smart she was to keep out of that.

Why get yourself in trouble for something so stupid. She made a wise decision, it was not your problem so why make it yours. Learn to walk away, not every fight should be your fight.
The last example here would be to show you how one person didn’t follow their mind and lost their life.

A couple years back, one cousin called another cousin to come and help him with this guy who he had problems with. This boy was always smiling, very friendly and well mannered. He told him that he was getting ready for bed, and he didn’t want to come down there right now. His cousin insisted and he got dressed and went by the cousins home and they went look for the guy. One thing lead to another, and a gun shot was fired, the one who got out of his bed lost his life.

It is sad how one thing leads to another, while your mind told you no, and you wasn’t going there. We always use words like, if he only knew. Yes, we don’t ever know, but if we follow our minds, we won’t have to ever find out.

Have you ever notice how girls fall for ugly or skinny looking guys and wonder why. The answer is simple, they have mastered the art of not letting any girl dictate what they should do, and that is by saying no. The more times you say no to a girl the more she likes you. Use it, get to like and say no some more, watch the power this word has.

If you want to be a better person, learn how to say no and stick with your decision. Don’t be afraid of saying no and don’t feel bad when someone says no to you. You have the rights to ask, but you have to keep in mind that they have the rights to say no.