Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

To be yourself means to be always positive on the JOB and at home. More positive influence at home will be worth it’s price in gold. Many times we try to be the most influential person on the JOB, and when we get home we show our children or our loved one the sign of tiredness. We try to not get involved with anything that is happening at that moment, it is as if we live in a different world than the rest of the family.

This is not right. To pretend to be a nice person when we are in town or visiting friends and family and when at home, you become the “boogy man”. You snap at the least annoyance, you seldom show your positive attitude towards the family and you always complain about being tired. If that’s you, then it’s time to kick that habit.

I honestly say, that you have to always be yourself no matter where you are. Stop trying to impress or act like your all that. No one notices you for what you pretend to be, they notice you for the things you do and the way you treat others.

We have a busy life on the JOB, and when we get home, it’s like the children rush you into overdrive. That should not be your break point, at that moment you should realize that they need a little attention and loving, that’s all. Give them the little time they deserve and try not to complain or take out your frustration on them. For all you know, they could have also been having a rough day, and would just like someone to talk with.

If you don’t try to understand them when they are little, then they won’t give you the time of day when they are grown.

Communication is the make or break point, when it comes to building a friendship with your children. Take time out of your day at home, and spend some time chatting or just watching T.V. with your children. Just do something fun, besides trying to act tired or act busy. Go play a little card game or some type of board game with them.

At this moment you might not see the importance, but the little time you spend with them when they are younger, will show the positive side of you and give them the attention they need. They will look forward to playing games with you, and will appreciate the time you spend with them.

At times we try so hard to be the best on our JOB, and when we get home our family members only know the negative attitude that you show. Try to be as positive at home and show that positive attitude that you have for your JOB also at home. And if your negative on your JOB, which I know you won’t admit, then bring that positive attitude from home to your JOB.

Simply showing respect to your children, is so important, and still so many parents neglect that. Be a role model for your children, let them model you, they will, even if you think they are not. Your children looks up to you, and if your not the parent you wish to be, then your guaranteed that your children will be confused, and will have many of your behavior traits. You can influence your family in a positive way or in a negative way, so why not choose the best way.

It really pleases me to hear my son ask me; ” Pops, how was your day?”

I always explain how it was, and then I talk to him about certain things that took place on the job, and he always laughs, and he gives me little bits of his own way of how I should have approached those situations. That really makes me smile. And then I ask him; “And, how was your day at school, got any bad grades today?”

We tend to jump into our own little conversations about school, and I enjoy those moments.

My daughter on the other hand, seldom ever ask, but she jumps straight into game playing mode, and always picks a game she would like to play. At that moment I tell her not now, and after I do what I had my mind set on doing, I then have some fun time.

I do wonder if those bosses that are always showing the worse attitudes on the JOB, have fun at home or do they go home and show a positive attitude. Or is it that they are controlled at home and need to express a sense of power when on the JOB.

Please let me know your point of view, on this, because I really want to know if these type of people have fun off the JOB, because they surely don’t show any positive sides on the JOB.

Do you think a Boss with a nasty attitude, has a different attitude at home?

I want to leave you with a quote from Robert Holden’s book: Shift Happens…

Today, be what you want.

If you want love, be loving.

If you want peace, be peaceful.

If you want fun, be funny.

If you want “NEW”, be different.

If you want adventure, be open.

If you want success, be alive.

If you want joy, be kind.

I can’t say enough great things about this book, Shift Happens, it is just inspiring, amazing and fun to read over and over again…

Growing leaders for tomorrow starts at home, and it starts at a very young age, and it’s up to you to inspire your children to greatness. Do you know how to inspire your children to greatness? If your one of those parents that is thinking that your children will turn out great on their own, you will be in for a great surprise. Your children needs guidance and molding and most of all inspiration from you.

When it comes to my own children I do my best to teach and show them right from wrong, I don’t just spank and scold and leave it at that, after every disciplinary action I try to show them what they did wrong and why I responded the way I did.

To create leaders out of your children takes communication, you have to speak to your kids as if they are grown ups, and their age is not important. Communicate in a way that will show them what you expect of them. Picture the life that you have in mind for your kids, and let them know what you expect of them.

There is nothing wrong with high expectations, but there is something wrong with pushing your children beyond what they can do, and pushing them in a direction that you wish for them, they have minds of their own, you just need to show them the right path.

You can’t live your life through your children, they have to live the life that they want. At times, they will not have a clue what they wish to become, and that is where you come in as a parent. You have to see what they are capable of, see exactly what it is that they like, and once you discover their passion, then slowly lead them in that direction. That can be done by purchasing books for them to read, even getting videos that shows them what that profession entails. Carry them on field trips to visit companies that cater to their field.

No knowledge gained at a you age will be lost, it all starts with a simple idea. The best ideas came from people with very little education, so don’t believe that it is all about having top degrees and becoming a lawyer or a doctor. The small and over looked ideas created millions for those who dared to dream big.

When you look around you today everything that you see was created by someone, from a dream or what we call: “A ah hah moment”.

To inspire your children to greatness starts by talking to them about life, and about the ways to start your own business or the work fields that can create high salaries. Inspiration is what will drive your kids to greatness, you have to constantly show them the bigger picture, get them to dream big and to think big.

I don’t have a problem with low level jobs, but I have a problem when I see our youths growing up to work those types of jobs, when there are much better jobs available.

If you have to start with a low level paying job, great, but do have your mind set that this will be temporary, and that is why you should show your kids that they have the potential to be much better than you and have to them grow with the mindset that they will have a much better life than yours.

Another overlooked point is money.

Teach your kids about money, show them how to deal with money, give them an allowance and watch what they do with it. If they tend to spend it on unnecessary things, explain to them why it’s not worth it and how to make better use of their money.

Make your kids to understand the value of money at a very young age, it’s not about the love of money, it’s about what money can do for you.

Many folks talk down their children, telling them that money is the root of all evil, and that the rich don’t enjoy their wealth. Well, trust me, your child should understand that the love for money is a problem, but having money is the way to a better life. Don’t be a slave for money, but learn how to make money work for you.

Teach them that money is a good thing, if your kids grow up thinking money is bad, then they would end up living a mediocre life, while the greatness that life has to offer can only be seen when you live a honest and trustworthy life with or without money. It’s not the amount of money that you have that will create happiness, it’s the way you feel about money that makes you happy. Be generous and thankful for the little you have and it will grow, and show your kids the value.

A broken home isn’t a happy home.

At some point in life, many marriages fail and that single parent takes on the roll of a bittered Mom/Pop, and they show that bitterness towards their own kids. But I don’t believe it should be that way, I think you should do with what you have, and accept that it was not meant to be. From now on you should show your kids that being a single parent is something that can happen to anyone and that you should make the best of your life under every circumstance.

Their are situations where single parents has created the most successful children that we know of today. And that is because those parents were really busy inspiring greatness and molding their kids to have a better life than what their parents had.

Married couples that argue and fight constantly

Another sad family affair that I have often seen, is two people living together like cats and dogs, fighting and cursing each blessed day. That’s not good for your children, it brings them up with the mindset that fighting and cursing is a way of life.

It’s not, and if that’s the case then you are better off being a single parent, because your kids won’t be ready to face life, and be able to raise inspired children of their own.

Kids raising kids…

I think it’s time we start to educate our kids about “sex”, and to stop thinking that they won’t get pregnant. If you teach them how to protect then there would be no surprises in your family.

If your not talking to them about sex, trust me on this one, at some point in their life someone else will.

Teach them to protect or to know the consequences of what will happen. You can’t stop it, and your kids won’t ever tell you everything, so forget that idea. You can only try to improve your communication gap with your own children and that is what will help build strong bonds.

As I end to day I leave you with this:

You have to be a role model to your kids, so push them and show them how proud you are and that you live an honest and sincere life. Be there for them and help them through the rough times, but let them learn from their own mistakes, ad talk about the things that they will confront in life and the different people they have to meet when growing up and how to deal with them.

Be honest and open with them, and they will be honest and open with certain things, yes, they will keep certain secrets from you. Show them love at home, and empower them whenever you can. The role you should fulfill from now on is that of a parent who is always asking this one question: How To Inspire Your Children To Greatness?