Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

Image via WikipediaToday, I am in the mood to share with you a very special mother’s day treat. I am starting off by wishing all the mothers of the world Happy Mothers Day, it doesn’t matter how old you are, if your the biological mother or not, it goes out to all those mothers who took time to raise one child, or many and those who take care of someone else’s child who’s mother refused the role.

At times in our lives, we have had tough times and at other times our mother was a blessing. Some of us complained about their mother while others ignore they have a mother, few don’t even talk to their Mom, the small minded ones hit and abuse their mother and there are those who have no mother, either because they don’t know their Mom or their Mom died.

The situation doesn’t matter, and today is the day, we have to respect all mother’s all over the globe. I may be fortunate to have a Mom to celebrate mother’s day with, and at the same time share my happiness with my children’s mother. Aside from that, one thing’s for sure, without your mother you would not have life today.

A Mothers Day Special

To the lucky few who still have their Mom, and I am in that group, I wish I could share the feelings I have when I am talking with my mother and listening to her wisdom of the ages, because I am repeatedly told about her life stories, and the many years she has on this earth and the things she did, it shows the many mothers day celebrations she have enjoyed.

Oh, before I forget, from my post, growing old isn’t easy, I stated I will let you know how old my Mom is, stick around, you will get a surprise.

Today is that day, when you can eat your pride, forgive and forget, if your having problems with your Mom or haven’t spoken to her in a while, and give her a mothers day present to be proud of. As a mother, although I have never given birth to none, I have been raising three, and have witnessed the bond my children holds with their mother. A mother can never loose that bond, your her child, your part of her, and no matter what you did wrong, a mother always forgives and understands.

Living with such hatred in your heart is nothing nice, and does you more harm than good, take the phone and call your Mom, and wish her happy mothers day, it will be the best mother’s day idea, I must agree, and one she will never forget.

I don’t think any mother day gift can replace the happy moment a mother will get when she sees, all her children at the front door on her special day.

Some of us are not fortunate as others, and may have little cash to spend. But don’t worry, a mother day card will be just fine, let your kids make one if you have no cash. Have you never noticed, those old drawings and paintings from years back lying around your mother’s house, they keep everything from their children. Or better yet, take some pictures of you and the family, frame it, and give it to her as a mothers day card.

I am not sure about this one, but a couple friends told me that they always send their mom out for a mothers day spa treatment. Have never done this, so can’t say much about this one. If it please and sound like a great idea, then do it, just do something for your Mother. A simple bouquet of flowers will do wonders for her soul.

Some years back, I saw my own kids make a card for mothers day, and they shocked me, because I had no clue they were making it, until the day they showed it. Fast forward a couple years to the future and all they do now, is…

ask… What mother’s day present are you going to get?

Has this ever happened to you?

I know you can relate to this, in my experience, you just go all out of your way to get something together. It’s fun seeing how they talk down what you wish to get and try to get something that their Mom would really appreciate, as if they really know their mother, need or wants.

A famous question that many ask: When Is Mothers Day?

You should be ashamed of yourself, if you have no clue that it’s the second Sunday in the month of May. It’s the day many Mom’s look forward to. I can’t say I will be cooking up a big breakfast this year, because I want to keep my lips sealed, but women seems to love those type of surprises…

hint… hint… to those husbands out there, who forgot to get their wife a mothers day gift. It works miracles, and makes everything just fine.

Times changes and many things change once you grow older, but the one thing that will never change is your Mom, you can only have one, and today is that day, to show her how much you appreciate her as your mother. Just think about it, everyday comes and goes, but only once per year, you get the chance to celebrate Mothers Day.

I can recall one Mother’s Day when we took our Mom over to the French Side for a Mother’s Day Dinner fit for a queen, she laughed until she cried, it was really great seeing her happy like that. I do believe that children likes happy tears, it fills a spot in your heart, one I can’t explain.

Like the saying goes, many Moons ago, when my Mom was younger and things were not as nice, we couldn’t even afford to buy her a gift, all we could afford was a big hug and a kiss, those simple things still work today, and they mean more to any mother than all the money in the world, just show up, and give her one of those priceless hugs and kisses, that is what I will be doing this year. My mom has been around for eighty years now, and I have to say, that I can’t complain, I love her the same, and I have no clue when the good Lord will take her, but I know it will be sometime soon.

The years, are passing by faster each passing year, it’s as if we are living in a fast paste world, and I am dreading that day, the day when she will part from this world, but I know it will come, when, I don’t know, but I do hope, when she is still strong and happy like she is today, and for her to never have one painful day of suffering.

As I write these words, a bitter feeling of loss and sentiment fills my body, my mind feels weak, and I have no clue if I should cry or not, my eyes fills with tears, but I know I don’t want to cry, so why am i feeling this way? I said, my Mom lived a happy and fulfilling life, so why do I feel this way?

I can’t explain this feeling, but, a couple weeks back, a very close friend of mine Mom passed away, she was even older than my Mom, she was 92 years. It is a sad happening, but life goes on, the old have to die, and new babies have to come into this world, to make sure our world keep on existing, and so that we can celebrate many more mothers days.

To any struggling mother out there, don’t give away your kids, thinking you can’t vend for them. You will be a much better Mom to your own, once you put your mind to it. Love can conquer all, love your child, one day your struggles will end.

I will end this day by saying; “If your giving the gift of the Lord, and is able to bear children, do what it takes and be a mother to them. Take care of them, show them right from wrong, don’t spare the rod, and the most important is to teach them how to love, give them lots of love, and they will be there for each and every Mothers Day the Lord sends your way. My Mom has been blessed with 52 Happy Mothers Days, and I don’t think anyone can ask for anything more.”

Just a couple days ago I saw my Mom, and at that moment I really realized how gracefully she is aging and just how strong she still is. At that moment I was fast forwarded into the future and I started to think. Will I be able to grow old and strong like my Mom?

At her age, she is still living on her own, taking care of herself, doing her own grocery shopping, doing her own laundry with the help of her maid, even cooking her own meals and last but not least, laughing and enjoying life and going to church every Sunday. She is really happy, and can keep a conversation going like a young mind. No one can really understand what it is to take of yourself, especially at a much older age when all your bones are so fragile. A simple fall and something will snap or break. And we all know that those old brittle bones don’t heal as well.

I am always teasing my Mom and saying how she walks like a Chinese woman in one of those tight CHEONGSAM dresses, and cautious she is. She goes out and tries to be home before sun-set, because she losses orientation after certain hours.

Until recently, while staring at her and thinking about the process of growing old and all the issues we have to yet face one day. I can say without a doubt, growing old isn’t easy. You have to honestly have it in your mind that one day you will grow old, and that the things that once was considered normal will now no longer be, everything will be like a heavy duty burden. My Mom, really copes very well with this. She doesn’t let nothing get in her way, and she tries to stay busy doing the things she deems important.

At time, she would call and say she locked herself out of the house, she would call just one of her sons, the one who answers first, or the first number that comes mind, he then would call the others until one close to her neighbor hood can pass by and open her door for her. We no longer worry with this, nor does she, it’s part of growing old.
Just a couple days back, she said that she lost her wallet, she made a joke of it, and said: “I have lost so many wallets, that I no longer walk with much money, $20 dollars is most the lucky finder will get!” Isn’t that positive motivation, that keeps you from thinking about how your messing up. She is constantly saying that her old computer isn’t working good, and that she understands this. Truthfully, I am amazed to see how well she deals with this, and how she acknowledges that she is no longer as strong and doesn’t try to even think about doing the things she used to do.

Suppose, just suppose, you was able to be placed for one day in her shoes, do you honestly think, you would be able to understand what those old folks face on a daily basis? It’s like your slowly living, everything is slowing down around you, or better said, everything is moving too fast for you.

I don’t believe your ready for that journey, and I don’t think you would survive for one day. I myself is not prepared to face life the way my Mom is facing it. I will have to really settle down and start seeing things from a different view, and I do believe that you will better prepare yourself to take on life the way she does, when you have lived a happy life.

As Mother’s Day is right around the corner, it made me think and reflect and put into picture the life my Mom now lives. Many people would only wish for what she has, because she has health and no pains. She moves around freely, and she have the love from many People on this little Island of St. Maarten.

Friends, family and her sons are always just a call away, at times she goes on trips with her Niece to places I myself have never been. I think she is a true pioneer of the belief that what you dish out, is what you will receive. She gave willingly and was always there to help people out, and that is why I think she is going to be strong until the end.

Can’t say when her reign will come to an end, but I can say one thing, she lived a fulfilled, happy, caring and loving life.

I sometimes wonder if there is one thing she missed in life, and at times the only thing that would come to mind is: “A Daughter”. I don’t honestly know, she was always a women of chosen words, she never said anything she didn’t want you to hear, and never showed favorites among her six sons.

Is there really one she liked better than the other?

I’d like to tell you more about her favorite son, but that would be a lie, because she always said that none of her kids was her eyeball. But deep down inside, one of us always believed that one was her favorite, and if you were to ask all six brothers, all would say a different name.

Enough, is enough, and it’s time for me to get back to reality, I don’t want to picture or even think of putting myself in her shoes right now. Here’s why, you and me have the choice to live life just like her and to reap the benefits when we grow old, but are we really doing that? Isn’t it time we start preparing for that day, by doing more of the things we take for granted like: smile more today, laugh for today, live for today, be generous today, be all you can be today, and enjoy everyday…

…and rest assured that you and I will have the type of life she has at her age.

OK, I can read your mind, your wondering how old my Mom is.

To find out, you will have to return to my blog, to read my post that I will send to my Mom for mothers day.

I want to leave you with a quote from Robert Holden’s book: Shift Happens…

Today, be what you want.

If you want love, be loving.

If you want peace, be peaceful.

If you want fun, be funny.

If you want “NEW”, be different.

If you want adventure, be open.

If you want success, be alive.

If you want joy, be kind.

I can’t say enough great things about this book, Shift Happens, it is just inspiring, amazing and fun to read over and over again…