Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

When your studying, you will get to a point where you will feel that you want to give up, you will not know what to do next. At that moment it all seems to be going wrong, and you just can’t seem to figure out what to do to make it. It doesn’t matter if it’s your final year in school, or your first year. It can be a business of your own or a simple goal that you have set.

At one point in your life, you will reach a point where you will want to give up. At that moment my only advice is to stay the course and keep your focus. It will all turn out just fine. Don’t ask me why this works, but I have been there myself and at that time I felt like giving up, but for some reason it just works out.

Don’t ask me why it works, but all I can say is it works, once you don’t give up.

I will give you an example when I was in my final year of Engineering. I was at a point in my life where this one subject just plagued me, I just couldn’t figure out how to pass this one subject: “Information Technology.” It was not the most difficult subject, but for some unknown reason, I just didn’t understand this subject. I would fail if I got a bad mark, and we only had one exam for this subject.

I honestly didn’t get it, I studied and studied. The day came and I had to do that exam, I felt very anxious and couldn’t understand why, this was a feeling that was foreign territory for me. I went into the classroom, and for some unknown reason, I had this feeling that this test was going to fail me.

As I sat down, and started with my test, I saw no light, I couldn’t figure out what to do, I was skipping question after question, it seemed that I couldn’t answer anything. I just did what I could, and I knew that I would surely fail.

A couple of weeks went by, we got the results, I passed all my subjects except this one subject, I got only 30%. Can you picture that. I failed miserably, and had no clue what to do next. I just sat there staring at my grade, and thinking: What’s next? Would I be able to turn this around and still pass, I had one chance only and I had to stand strong and focus. I had to keep my self calm and pep myself up, encourage myself to be strong and prove that I can make it.

To make a long story short, I honestly felt like giving up, but then at that moment I said; “You came so far, you just can’t give up now.” Those were just words, because in my head I was thinking that I can’t make it, and I honestly had no clue how to go about passing this subject, but at that moment I had this little voice inside of me telling me to honestly hold on, get the courage and take that test one more time.

I listened to that little voice, I decided to take that test over. When it is all going wrong you have to learn how to boost your self confidence. To be honest I really didn’t have a choice, because I would fail if I didn’t.

It was the first time that I had actually failed a important exam, and I honestly didn’t know how to deal with that type of defeat. At that time I was wishing that someone was there to give me a boost, and I couldn’t find that person. I had no one to turn to, but myself, if it was to be, it was up to me. Those words stuck in my head.

Giving up is sometimes easier than we think, but it is the easiest path, and the most obvious choice. And failing is no big thing, many have failed before me, but for some reason I didn’t realize it was a choice. So I made the choice to do it over again.

I didn’t study as hard as I did for the first test. I just went into the class room, saw the test and said, wow, this is even more difficult than the first test, but this time, I had no plan on skipping any questions. I wrote to my hearts content and I finally finished the test, and left, didn’t bother to discuss it with anyone.

A couple weeks later, I got my results and realized that I did pass, it was a happy moment, and it made me realize how often in our life, we quit too soon. Had I quit, then I would have never know how I could have made it by just sitting out the test.

With that I would like you to listen to an audio from Stephen Pierce that really captures this moment. It made me think back. In his words, all you have to do is hold on, don’t give up. A word of encouragement.

If you have a goal or a dream that you wish to accomplish, please remember to hold on and be strong, it will turn out right. Just don’t give up.

I want to leave you with a quote from Robert Holden’s book: Shift Happens…

Today, be what you want.

If you want love, be loving.

If you want peace, be peaceful.

If you want fun, be funny.

If you want “NEW”, be different.

If you want adventure, be open.

If you want success, be alive.

If you want joy, be kind.

I can’t say enough great things about this book, Shift Happens, it is just inspiring, amazing and fun to read over and over again…

Growing leaders for tomorrow starts at home, and it starts at a very young age, and it’s up to you to inspire your children to greatness. Do you know how to inspire your children to greatness? If your one of those parents that is thinking that your children will turn out great on their own, you will be in for a great surprise. Your children needs guidance and molding and most of all inspiration from you.

When it comes to my own children I do my best to teach and show them right from wrong, I don’t just spank and scold and leave it at that, after every disciplinary action I try to show them what they did wrong and why I responded the way I did.

To create leaders out of your children takes communication, you have to speak to your kids as if they are grown ups, and their age is not important. Communicate in a way that will show them what you expect of them. Picture the life that you have in mind for your kids, and let them know what you expect of them.

There is nothing wrong with high expectations, but there is something wrong with pushing your children beyond what they can do, and pushing them in a direction that you wish for them, they have minds of their own, you just need to show them the right path.

You can’t live your life through your children, they have to live the life that they want. At times, they will not have a clue what they wish to become, and that is where you come in as a parent. You have to see what they are capable of, see exactly what it is that they like, and once you discover their passion, then slowly lead them in that direction. That can be done by purchasing books for them to read, even getting videos that shows them what that profession entails. Carry them on field trips to visit companies that cater to their field.

No knowledge gained at a you age will be lost, it all starts with a simple idea. The best ideas came from people with very little education, so don’t believe that it is all about having top degrees and becoming a lawyer or a doctor. The small and over looked ideas created millions for those who dared to dream big.

When you look around you today everything that you see was created by someone, from a dream or what we call: “A ah hah moment”.

To inspire your children to greatness starts by talking to them about life, and about the ways to start your own business or the work fields that can create high salaries. Inspiration is what will drive your kids to greatness, you have to constantly show them the bigger picture, get them to dream big and to think big.

I don’t have a problem with low level jobs, but I have a problem when I see our youths growing up to work those types of jobs, when there are much better jobs available.

If you have to start with a low level paying job, great, but do have your mind set that this will be temporary, and that is why you should show your kids that they have the potential to be much better than you and have to them grow with the mindset that they will have a much better life than yours.

Another overlooked point is money.

Teach your kids about money, show them how to deal with money, give them an allowance and watch what they do with it. If they tend to spend it on unnecessary things, explain to them why it’s not worth it and how to make better use of their money.

Make your kids to understand the value of money at a very young age, it’s not about the love of money, it’s about what money can do for you.

Many folks talk down their children, telling them that money is the root of all evil, and that the rich don’t enjoy their wealth. Well, trust me, your child should understand that the love for money is a problem, but having money is the way to a better life. Don’t be a slave for money, but learn how to make money work for you.

Teach them that money is a good thing, if your kids grow up thinking money is bad, then they would end up living a mediocre life, while the greatness that life has to offer can only be seen when you live a honest and trustworthy life with or without money. It’s not the amount of money that you have that will create happiness, it’s the way you feel about money that makes you happy. Be generous and thankful for the little you have and it will grow, and show your kids the value.

A broken home isn’t a happy home.

At some point in life, many marriages fail and that single parent takes on the roll of a bittered Mom/Pop, and they show that bitterness towards their own kids. But I don’t believe it should be that way, I think you should do with what you have, and accept that it was not meant to be. From now on you should show your kids that being a single parent is something that can happen to anyone and that you should make the best of your life under every circumstance.

Their are situations where single parents has created the most successful children that we know of today. And that is because those parents were really busy inspiring greatness and molding their kids to have a better life than what their parents had.

Married couples that argue and fight constantly

Another sad family affair that I have often seen, is two people living together like cats and dogs, fighting and cursing each blessed day. That’s not good for your children, it brings them up with the mindset that fighting and cursing is a way of life.

It’s not, and if that’s the case then you are better off being a single parent, because your kids won’t be ready to face life, and be able to raise inspired children of their own.

Kids raising kids…

I think it’s time we start to educate our kids about “sex”, and to stop thinking that they won’t get pregnant. If you teach them how to protect then there would be no surprises in your family.

If your not talking to them about sex, trust me on this one, at some point in their life someone else will.

Teach them to protect or to know the consequences of what will happen. You can’t stop it, and your kids won’t ever tell you everything, so forget that idea. You can only try to improve your communication gap with your own children and that is what will help build strong bonds.

As I end to day I leave you with this:

You have to be a role model to your kids, so push them and show them how proud you are and that you live an honest and sincere life. Be there for them and help them through the rough times, but let them learn from their own mistakes, ad talk about the things that they will confront in life and the different people they have to meet when growing up and how to deal with them.

Be honest and open with them, and they will be honest and open with certain things, yes, they will keep certain secrets from you. Show them love at home, and empower them whenever you can. The role you should fulfill from now on is that of a parent who is always asking this one question: How To Inspire Your Children To Greatness?