Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

Image by thaisilvestre via FlickrYour final exams are closing in and students from all walks of life are showing many stress symptoms, some don’t even have a clue that it is stress that is causing all their aches and pains. For a student to pass their final exam, they will have to learn how to deal with stress, and this is simpler than it sounds. managing stress should be your first goal, you need to get yourself in relaxation mode or else you will definitely have a hard time focusing, and that would be a sure sign of failure.

A lot of the stress symptoms that these students are facing can also be related to the adopted strict principles that their parents are putting on them. Let me elaborate on this for a moment. During the school year, many parents let their children do as they please, and as the year start gearing up towards exams, they make drastic changes and implement new laws that the children are not accustomed to. I think, that is really hard for your child, and they have no clue how to deal with this, and that brings on more stress.

Many of these children are coping with stress in their own way, and the parents are not trying to clam and relax them, but put on more pressure as to keep them captive and enclosed, as if this will improve their studies. You should have implemented the strict rules during the year, and not towards the end.

Another hard blow that the students facing exams has to deal with are those teachers, who naturally take away the kids chances, and make them face fair and failure head on. No matter how bad it is, I don’t believe no teacher should be putting down their students and telling them that they will fail. Are the teachers their to motivate and help or steal dreams?

The parents on the other should be there showing their children how to deal with stress, and should be doing research online to figure out ways to relieve stress. I know many of you have no clue how to cope with stress and the many ways to deal with stress, so can you picture that your child is even more lost in this stressful world than you are.

To help you and your child relax and get rid of stress, I will give you a couple relaxation techniques that will help you deal with exams stress:

Stress Relaxation Techniques

1. Believing That You Will Pass - What you think about all day long, is what will come to pass, and you have to keep your mind set on getting that diploma.
2. Listening To Music - A little music is good for the soul and will help calm the nerves
3. Relaxing The Mind - Focus on something positive, smile and keep only positive feelings flowing through your mind at that moment, breath slowly and try not to think about the exams.
4. Peace And Quiet - Find someplace quiet, where your alone, and try to really get some sleep, not getting enough sleep brings on even more stress.
5. Exercise - This is the best stress reliever that I know, if your mind is focussed and your muscles are active, your body will relax. Try to do some type of exercises, like yoga, tai-chi, kick boxing, stretching, body-building or any type of sports exercise that involves mind body and soul.

All students stress, even the one with high grades, they stress to remain at the top, and is even more scared to loose that spot then the struggling student. Even your parents deal with job stress, but exam stress is a killer, and spotting the signs of stress is of utmost importance.

Spotting The Signs:

• Concentration problems
• Not eating
• Constant worrying
• Negative traits
• Tense behavior
• Sleeping too much or too less
• Skin problems (discoloration of the skin)
• Nail biting
• Headaches (or any type of ache)
• Constant nagging
• Cold symptoms
• Depression
• Swollen Glands

There are many more, but those will be the easy stress signs to spot, and should help you see the signs and know exactly what to do and how to deal with your child stress symptoms. Here is a great article that deals with managing stress, it covers the signs, symptoms and causes of stress…
For me, there is only one way to fail, and that is to not try, go for it, do your exams as if it’s just a ordinary school test. Stop putting emphasis on the fact that it’s a exam. Go out there and break a leg…

Life isn’t getting any easier and the best way to move forward is when we have a group of like minded people working for the best and bringing out the best in each other. We have to start wanting the best for ourselves and for everyone else we know.

Being black is hard as it is, and a constant attack at each other isn’t helping anyone of us. Why can’t black people look out for each other? Why can’t black people build stronger ties in our community? I do believe we can, but the picture that we are painting today has to change.

Let’s try to see the big picture that is being painted today:

1. Making kids for many different men isn’t helping out, you got to see that there is something wrong with this. Today there are parents with four, five or more children all from different fathers. What’s wrong with that picture? They invented birth control with no color barrier, and still many are making babies like they are a bargain.
2. It is hip to wear you pants below the waist line, and walk like a duck. Man, get real, this has no face value to me. I can’t picture the top executives walking into a meeting room to negotiate a million dollar deal, with such a dress code. No one will take you serious. So why is our youth wearing their pants that way?
3. Education is available to all whom wish, yet, many of our black children are dropping out of school before the age of sixteen. Do we think that the future lies in becoming a professional Basket ball player, Football player or maybe a famous rapper (they all carry the trade mark of the “Drop Down Pants Syndrome.”) So why is our youth lacking in the school benches?
4. Our teenage girls are not getting the chance to even enjoy marriage, it is just all about sex, they are letting themselves be video taped by their so called boyfriends. Trust me, if he loved you that much, he wouldn’t be taping you, he would be too busy making love with you. If he wants to tape you, just ask yourself what he would do with that video once you and him are no longer together? Guess the answer is obvious! Something is wrong with the amount of videos of our teenage love struck youngster. Help me paint this picture. Why are they letting their boyfriends tape them? Haven’t they just seen the last one from someone in our community?
5. Teenagers getting pregnant at such a young age, it’s like children raising children all over again. When will the cycle stop? How can we change this picture, are we raising children so they can just get pregnant at a very young age?
6. Many of the children hanging out on the block, can’t even write nor read their own name if you snubbed it right under their noses. How will they ever be able to sign a check or get their own bank account, much less get a great JOB? Something is wrong with this picture, hanging on the block is not cool.
7. Young girls hanging out with a group of boys until late in the evening, I have seen this in my own neighborhood. don’t these youngsters have a mother or a father? This picture, let’s me to see that boys and girls hanging out late at night means, our own parental skills are lagging.
8. Look at the checkout counters, all we are seeing is young black girls, working for minimum wages. Will they grow up and start a family of their own? How can we change this picture and capture the better jobs that are available?
9. Parents attacking the teachers, is it the teacher fault, or is it the teachers responsibility to discipline our children?
10. Now, I am taking a great example from my little Island St. Maarten. Many of our youngsters are ending up in prison. Whenever a crime is committed they blame the foreigners, well, wake up people this is not true. Our prisons are becoming to small, they are filling up with black folks, and many of them are local Antillean kids. What’s wrong with this picture.

I can go on and on, and create a really big list, but I do think the picture has been painted, and I do know you see what I see, and understand where I am coming from. If you don’t then that means you have living with your eyes closed and not accepting the fact that we as black people are failing miserable.

At the time of this writing, Barack Obama is running for president, and he is a black man. Yes, we have come a long way, and we should be proud to see this. I am proud to have witness this event in my life, because it shows that some of the black people in the world are painting better pictures. But to few and too little to brag about. What is the first picture you think he would wish to change?

Do you think it’s Obama’s job, or our job to work together and starting pushing each other up the ladder. As black people we have to stop fighting and putting each other down. We have to stand up and unite and help each other improve. To make this world a better place, it starts with you, you have to change that picture that many of our black folks are painting, and it starts with you, not Obama or any other person.

We have to stop playing the blaming game and start facing our own responsibilities with open eyes.

We must become the change we want to see in the world… “Mahatma Gandhi”

We have to also start educating our kids and getting them to start striving for better in life. Change their mental image of what life is supposed to be like. Let them see that to be different is something great.

This is not a black or white issue, this is not a teaching problem, this is a problem we are facing daily and if we don’t start pushing each other up the ladder, we will find ourselves living in bondage again. Just enjoying the meager wages and living in the poverty stricken neighborhoods.

Let’s all change this picture, and do something today. A small change in our thinking and our attitude, will help propel more of our black people to do more and strive for more. Let’s start with the first change, and that is to change yourself, forget about changing the world or another person, just change yourself and that will enable just one more black person to shine, together we will make a difference.

If only there was a way to make life look so simple and easy, make it more understandable, make people understand how you think and why you do things the way you do them. Is there something like; Life Improvement Made Simple?

Can you really make simple strides in life that would improve your life for the better?

I wish that question was as simple as growing up and getting all the great things that life has to offer, but I can’t give no direct answer to that. All I can say is that you will make mistakes and do hope you will learn from your mistakes, but you can make life better, by enjoying the nicer things in life, and being a better person.

It doesn’t matter how old you are or what type of lifestyle you live now, your life can always use some improvement. At times I myself wish that I could come over more understandable to others and they would respect what I do, or see things the way I see it. But, at times I know that you have to take charge and do things that many won’t see eye to eye with, and those are difficult moments in life.

How do you deal with moments when no one understands you?

I should rephrase that question, it’s not that they don’t understand, it’s that they don’t see eye to eye or agree with what you are saying. Many people tend to live in a world where they believe in what they say, and they tend to care less about what others have to say.

In many cases like that, it is often very sad, because no matter how hard you try, or what you bring forward it will never make sense. You start to feel inferior, and give way to everything they sya or do, you seldom think your good enough and never bring forward what’s on your mind.

The best way to deal with those type of people, is to simply state what’s on your mind and never get into too much detail. Life isn’t about who is right from wrong. Life is about listening and I mean honestly listening to one another and giving the person speaking a chance to bring over what they are trying to say.

This is the first way to make simple improvements in life, it all starts with communication, and the way you treat others. Stop trying to be a Know-It-All. Just be a good listener.

A next point I would like to address is, the method of respecting one another. Respect is a big word, and I have seen cases where we tend to show respect, in such a form that it favors the one who believes everything they do is right. Nothing you do or say is ever good enough. That isn’t respect. I think respect goes way beyond dictating what you wish, or bringing forward your method for dealing with certain issues, and leaving it as that.

To be respectful, truly shows how much you respect others for their ideas or opinions. Everyone can come up with a great idea, and as such, you should truly show how much you respect others for the little things they do and what they say.

I have witnessed situations where many people stay hoping and praying for others to fail, and that is supposed to be something to be proud of. Wishing bad for others to glorify your wish or to prove you was right, is not in any form or fashion respectful, just because you don’t agree with what they have to say or did, doesn’t mean it was wrong.

You and I are responsible for the decisions we make, and those choices we make in life, will dictate the type of life we live. I do believe that once you stand firm and believe in the choices you make, may they be wrong or right, only you can adjust and improve life as you go.

The unknown awaits us all, and some of the decisions you make will not tend to work out, but like a ship at sea, you just have to adjust and stay on course, only you know what plans or goals floats around in your mind. Stay on course and follow your plan and all will work out fine.

Life is about improvements, small daily increments that will make your life better on a daily basis. The more you improve the stronger and a better person you will become. Just keep on improving and living the life you want to live.