Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

Life isn’t getting any easier and the best way to move forward is when we have a group of like minded people working for the best and bringing out the best in each other. We have to start wanting the best for ourselves and for everyone else we know.

Being black is hard as it is, and a constant attack at each other isn’t helping anyone of us. Why can’t black people look out for each other? Why can’t black people build stronger ties in our community? I do believe we can, but the picture that we are painting today has to change.

Let’s try to see the big picture that is being painted today:

1. Making kids for many different men isn’t helping out, you got to see that there is something wrong with this. Today there are parents with four, five or more children all from different fathers. What’s wrong with that picture? They invented birth control with no color barrier, and still many are making babies like they are a bargain.
2. It is hip to wear you pants below the waist line, and walk like a duck. Man, get real, this has no face value to me. I can’t picture the top executives walking into a meeting room to negotiate a million dollar deal, with such a dress code. No one will take you serious. So why is our youth wearing their pants that way?
3. Education is available to all whom wish, yet, many of our black children are dropping out of school before the age of sixteen. Do we think that the future lies in becoming a professional Basket ball player, Football player or maybe a famous rapper (they all carry the trade mark of the “Drop Down Pants Syndrome.”) So why is our youth lacking in the school benches?
4. Our teenage girls are not getting the chance to even enjoy marriage, it is just all about sex, they are letting themselves be video taped by their so called boyfriends. Trust me, if he loved you that much, he wouldn’t be taping you, he would be too busy making love with you. If he wants to tape you, just ask yourself what he would do with that video once you and him are no longer together? Guess the answer is obvious! Something is wrong with the amount of videos of our teenage love struck youngster. Help me paint this picture. Why are they letting their boyfriends tape them? Haven’t they just seen the last one from someone in our community?
5. Teenagers getting pregnant at such a young age, it’s like children raising children all over again. When will the cycle stop? How can we change this picture, are we raising children so they can just get pregnant at a very young age?
6. Many of the children hanging out on the block, can’t even write nor read their own name if you snubbed it right under their noses. How will they ever be able to sign a check or get their own bank account, much less get a great JOB? Something is wrong with this picture, hanging on the block is not cool.
7. Young girls hanging out with a group of boys until late in the evening, I have seen this in my own neighborhood. don’t these youngsters have a mother or a father? This picture, let’s me to see that boys and girls hanging out late at night means, our own parental skills are lagging.
8. Look at the checkout counters, all we are seeing is young black girls, working for minimum wages. Will they grow up and start a family of their own? How can we change this picture and capture the better jobs that are available?
9. Parents attacking the teachers, is it the teacher fault, or is it the teachers responsibility to discipline our children?
10. Now, I am taking a great example from my little Island St. Maarten. Many of our youngsters are ending up in prison. Whenever a crime is committed they blame the foreigners, well, wake up people this is not true. Our prisons are becoming to small, they are filling up with black folks, and many of them are local Antillean kids. What’s wrong with this picture.

I can go on and on, and create a really big list, but I do think the picture has been painted, and I do know you see what I see, and understand where I am coming from. If you don’t then that means you have living with your eyes closed and not accepting the fact that we as black people are failing miserable.

At the time of this writing, Barack Obama is running for president, and he is a black man. Yes, we have come a long way, and we should be proud to see this. I am proud to have witness this event in my life, because it shows that some of the black people in the world are painting better pictures. But to few and too little to brag about. What is the first picture you think he would wish to change?

Do you think it’s Obama’s job, or our job to work together and starting pushing each other up the ladder. As black people we have to stop fighting and putting each other down. We have to stand up and unite and help each other improve. To make this world a better place, it starts with you, you have to change that picture that many of our black folks are painting, and it starts with you, not Obama or any other person.

We have to stop playing the blaming game and start facing our own responsibilities with open eyes.

We must become the change we want to see in the world… “Mahatma Gandhi”

We have to also start educating our kids and getting them to start striving for better in life. Change their mental image of what life is supposed to be like. Let them see that to be different is something great.

This is not a black or white issue, this is not a teaching problem, this is a problem we are facing daily and if we don’t start pushing each other up the ladder, we will find ourselves living in bondage again. Just enjoying the meager wages and living in the poverty stricken neighborhoods.

Let’s all change this picture, and do something today. A small change in our thinking and our attitude, will help propel more of our black people to do more and strive for more. Let’s start with the first change, and that is to change yourself, forget about changing the world or another person, just change yourself and that will enable just one more black person to shine, together we will make a difference.

If only there was a way to make life look so simple and easy, make it more understandable, make people understand how you think and why you do things the way you do them. Is there something like; Life Improvement Made Simple?

Can you really make simple strides in life that would improve your life for the better?

I wish that question was as simple as growing up and getting all the great things that life has to offer, but I can’t give no direct answer to that. All I can say is that you will make mistakes and do hope you will learn from your mistakes, but you can make life better, by enjoying the nicer things in life, and being a better person.

It doesn’t matter how old you are or what type of lifestyle you live now, your life can always use some improvement. At times I myself wish that I could come over more understandable to others and they would respect what I do, or see things the way I see it. But, at times I know that you have to take charge and do things that many won’t see eye to eye with, and those are difficult moments in life.

How do you deal with moments when no one understands you?

I should rephrase that question, it’s not that they don’t understand, it’s that they don’t see eye to eye or agree with what you are saying. Many people tend to live in a world where they believe in what they say, and they tend to care less about what others have to say.

In many cases like that, it is often very sad, because no matter how hard you try, or what you bring forward it will never make sense. You start to feel inferior, and give way to everything they sya or do, you seldom think your good enough and never bring forward what’s on your mind.

The best way to deal with those type of people, is to simply state what’s on your mind and never get into too much detail. Life isn’t about who is right from wrong. Life is about listening and I mean honestly listening to one another and giving the person speaking a chance to bring over what they are trying to say.

This is the first way to make simple improvements in life, it all starts with communication, and the way you treat others. Stop trying to be a Know-It-All. Just be a good listener.

A next point I would like to address is, the method of respecting one another. Respect is a big word, and I have seen cases where we tend to show respect, in such a form that it favors the one who believes everything they do is right. Nothing you do or say is ever good enough. That isn’t respect. I think respect goes way beyond dictating what you wish, or bringing forward your method for dealing with certain issues, and leaving it as that.

To be respectful, truly shows how much you respect others for their ideas or opinions. Everyone can come up with a great idea, and as such, you should truly show how much you respect others for the little things they do and what they say.

I have witnessed situations where many people stay hoping and praying for others to fail, and that is supposed to be something to be proud of. Wishing bad for others to glorify your wish or to prove you was right, is not in any form or fashion respectful, just because you don’t agree with what they have to say or did, doesn’t mean it was wrong.

You and I are responsible for the decisions we make, and those choices we make in life, will dictate the type of life we live. I do believe that once you stand firm and believe in the choices you make, may they be wrong or right, only you can adjust and improve life as you go.

The unknown awaits us all, and some of the decisions you make will not tend to work out, but like a ship at sea, you just have to adjust and stay on course, only you know what plans or goals floats around in your mind. Stay on course and follow your plan and all will work out fine.

Life is about improvements, small daily increments that will make your life better on a daily basis. The more you improve the stronger and a better person you will become. Just keep on improving and living the life you want to live.

The key to happiness and a better life starts with trust, your relationship is based on trust, not money or anything else matters when it comes to being happy or having a loving relationship. The more trust people have for each other, the happier and longer they will live together and the more joy they will see in their life.

When your ill, you can only get better when you believe in yourself and your own ability that your body has to heal its self. That is also based on the trust factor. The power of mind and body working together can heal any sickness, but you have to trust and believe in the healing power that all of us are born with. So it all boils down to trust, the more you trust and believe the more your body will improve and the healthier you will get.

When your having a bad day, it all boils down to you trusting that your day from that moment on will get better, if you don’t trust your own ability to have better days, nothing will happen.

Now, let’s talk about the trust in building healthy relationships. It is easy, but many of you are scared to love and build a long lasting relationship. You go into a relationship thinking that it will fail, and trust you me it will. The next thing you do is go into a relationship with the idea of changing your partner, it just can’t and won’t ever work. When you met that person, you met them with a certain attitude, it was that attitude that you fell for, so why try to change them?

Building a trustworthy relationship takes time, and patience. You have to believe in each other, and trust each other. Do the things that your partner loves. Bring out the best in each other, make your partner feel special.

As time passes, many relationships dwindle like a rose slowly fading away, first the niceness, then the loving moments and soon after that the passion. What happened? How did those two that used to love each other grow so apart? It actually starts when you stop paying attention to each other, no one wants to do for the other, both are hiding the trust they used to have in each other, each partner is now waiting for the other to do something nice. Well, you know what? No one does anything, and like the rose that doesn’t get water, your relationship doesn’t get affection, the rose dies, and so is it with your relationship.

What happened, how can things go from great to horrible in such a short time?

That is the easy part about relationships, even friendship, and I should state that both of you lost touch, your friendship lost importance, you two are living like strangers now. To keep the flames burning you also have to realize the importance of communication. Any relationship where no one is talking, even about the simplest topics of the day, will fade away slowly.

An important point to consider here is that circumstances creates the greatest opportunities.

Today while talking to a friend she mentioned how ill her sister is, and she told me that it is really bothering her. You could have seen it in her. That is very sad, but it is times like this that brings you two closer together and really shows the power of trust. She will have to trust her own healing powers and you will have to believe that your sister will get better. She stated that these things happens to show how disconnected she became and that t was time to slow down and start enjoying life. Your task now is to cast blessing onto your sister, each and everyday.

In every happening or sad event, the reasons are not always very clear, but it does create and open many doors for things that we didn’t consider. You have to always try to see even a sad event like this one she is facing now, as a positive happening.

At moments you would question; Why her?

And for the same reason, I would say; Why not her? You nor I can predict what will happen or why it happens, but one thing we do know for sure, is that trust and our beliefs is what will get us through the rough times and make us stronger.

As you may have noticed, I never take anything for granted, and I try to see the positive of everything, which I know isn’t easy for many people. But, I wish you and your family strength and I do hope that your sister pulls through this. One thing I learned is that when your ill, you should watch a lot of comedies, it will take her mind of the illness, and get her into a healing mood. Laughter is the simplest cure for the soul.

Trust is the Miracle cure, it can heal the weak, make any relationship better, overcome any obstacle and bring happiness to your life. If you would only learn to trust, trust in God, or whoever it is you worship, trust your partner, trust your parents and at times trust your friends. The more trust you have the more happier you will be.

When you have trust, everything has more meaning, and your outlook is much brighter.

Trusting your own ability

I want to share with you an experience I had a couple days back. I got into a conversation with a customer about a situation that they were dealing with. They explained the problem they were having, and I honestly had no clue what to do.

As always, I trusted my work ethics and said to myself that I will solve this. I spoke to them and asked a couple questions. I then told them what I think would work. They honestly said they had no clue what I was talking about and asked if I could come by and help. I told them that I believed in their ability to get this working and that I would guide them.

I guided them over the phone, and without really and honestly understanding what I was doing solved their problem.

When I got off the phone, my colleague was listening to me, and I told him how surprised I am at times to find a solution, when I don’t fully grasp what I am doing. He told me that he himself is shocked to see my ability to solve such complex situations over the phone. I told him, well I learned it from you. And, that is the truth, he does that exceptionally well, and I just believe that if he can, so can I.

Believe in yourself, and trust that you have the power to work miracles and make things happen. Life is about trust, and your happiness will improve once you learn to trust and miracles will happen when you trust, just believe, and look for the best.