Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

I want to leave you with a quote from Robert Holden’s book: Shift Happens…

Today, be what you want.

If you want love, be loving.

If you want peace, be peaceful.

If you want fun, be funny.

If you want “NEW”, be different.

If you want adventure, be open.

If you want success, be alive.

If you want joy, be kind.

I can’t say enough great things about this book, Shift Happens, it is just inspiring, amazing and fun to read over and over again…

Growing leaders for tomorrow starts at home, and it starts at a very young age, and it’s up to you to inspire your children to greatness. Do you know how to inspire your children to greatness? If your one of those parents that is thinking that your children will turn out great on their own, you will be in for a great surprise. Your children needs guidance and molding and most of all inspiration from you.

When it comes to my own children I do my best to teach and show them right from wrong, I don’t just spank and scold and leave it at that, after every disciplinary action I try to show them what they did wrong and why I responded the way I did.

To create leaders out of your children takes communication, you have to speak to your kids as if they are grown ups, and their age is not important. Communicate in a way that will show them what you expect of them. Picture the life that you have in mind for your kids, and let them know what you expect of them.

There is nothing wrong with high expectations, but there is something wrong with pushing your children beyond what they can do, and pushing them in a direction that you wish for them, they have minds of their own, you just need to show them the right path.

You can’t live your life through your children, they have to live the life that they want. At times, they will not have a clue what they wish to become, and that is where you come in as a parent. You have to see what they are capable of, see exactly what it is that they like, and once you discover their passion, then slowly lead them in that direction. That can be done by purchasing books for them to read, even getting videos that shows them what that profession entails. Carry them on field trips to visit companies that cater to their field.

No knowledge gained at a you age will be lost, it all starts with a simple idea. The best ideas came from people with very little education, so don’t believe that it is all about having top degrees and becoming a lawyer or a doctor. The small and over looked ideas created millions for those who dared to dream big.

When you look around you today everything that you see was created by someone, from a dream or what we call: “A ah hah moment”.

To inspire your children to greatness starts by talking to them about life, and about the ways to start your own business or the work fields that can create high salaries. Inspiration is what will drive your kids to greatness, you have to constantly show them the bigger picture, get them to dream big and to think big.

I don’t have a problem with low level jobs, but I have a problem when I see our youths growing up to work those types of jobs, when there are much better jobs available.

If you have to start with a low level paying job, great, but do have your mind set that this will be temporary, and that is why you should show your kids that they have the potential to be much better than you and have to them grow with the mindset that they will have a much better life than yours.

Another overlooked point is money.

Teach your kids about money, show them how to deal with money, give them an allowance and watch what they do with it. If they tend to spend it on unnecessary things, explain to them why it’s not worth it and how to make better use of their money.

Make your kids to understand the value of money at a very young age, it’s not about the love of money, it’s about what money can do for you.

Many folks talk down their children, telling them that money is the root of all evil, and that the rich don’t enjoy their wealth. Well, trust me, your child should understand that the love for money is a problem, but having money is the way to a better life. Don’t be a slave for money, but learn how to make money work for you.

Teach them that money is a good thing, if your kids grow up thinking money is bad, then they would end up living a mediocre life, while the greatness that life has to offer can only be seen when you live a honest and trustworthy life with or without money. It’s not the amount of money that you have that will create happiness, it’s the way you feel about money that makes you happy. Be generous and thankful for the little you have and it will grow, and show your kids the value.

A broken home isn’t a happy home.

At some point in life, many marriages fail and that single parent takes on the roll of a bittered Mom/Pop, and they show that bitterness towards their own kids. But I don’t believe it should be that way, I think you should do with what you have, and accept that it was not meant to be. From now on you should show your kids that being a single parent is something that can happen to anyone and that you should make the best of your life under every circumstance.

Their are situations where single parents has created the most successful children that we know of today. And that is because those parents were really busy inspiring greatness and molding their kids to have a better life than what their parents had.

Married couples that argue and fight constantly

Another sad family affair that I have often seen, is two people living together like cats and dogs, fighting and cursing each blessed day. That’s not good for your children, it brings them up with the mindset that fighting and cursing is a way of life.

It’s not, and if that’s the case then you are better off being a single parent, because your kids won’t be ready to face life, and be able to raise inspired children of their own.

Kids raising kids…

I think it’s time we start to educate our kids about “sex”, and to stop thinking that they won’t get pregnant. If you teach them how to protect then there would be no surprises in your family.

If your not talking to them about sex, trust me on this one, at some point in their life someone else will.

Teach them to protect or to know the consequences of what will happen. You can’t stop it, and your kids won’t ever tell you everything, so forget that idea. You can only try to improve your communication gap with your own children and that is what will help build strong bonds.

As I end to day I leave you with this:

You have to be a role model to your kids, so push them and show them how proud you are and that you live an honest and sincere life. Be there for them and help them through the rough times, but let them learn from their own mistakes, ad talk about the things that they will confront in life and the different people they have to meet when growing up and how to deal with them.

Be honest and open with them, and they will be honest and open with certain things, yes, they will keep certain secrets from you. Show them love at home, and empower them whenever you can. The role you should fulfill from now on is that of a parent who is always asking this one question: How To Inspire Your Children To Greatness?

The only way to actually be the boss is when it’s your turn to show your leadership skills and this week was my turn. My boss and my colleague went off Island for three days, and left me in charge. All I can say is being boss is no fun, and then again I have to admit that if you can prove your worth, this is the best chance you get in life.

When they left I assumed everything would go smooth and no problems would arise, but no one prepared me for the most drowsed in worked days that would follow.

Everything that could have gone wrong took place, my phone was like a hot line, anyone working there at that moment would have sworn it was a five star restaurant with many take out orders. And to top that off, one of the CSR’s (Customer Service Reps) took ill, so I was filling his spot also.

You name it, and I did it for those couple of days.

Then when I thought it would get better, I got a couple of calls from some Government officials complaining that there systems went down. I have never created a bridged network before and was wondering how in Gods name will I pull that off. Was shown briefly how to do it.

I stayed calm, and tried to focus, began going through some reading material, they called just around nine that morning, and I did not say I didn’t know what to do. I just told them to have a little patience with me and that I was working alone. A little later I called them up and told them that I needed to rebuild all the bridge connections and I will try and get it done A.S.A.P.

I was really multi-tasking, doing customer outages and reading up on how to rebuild those bridges. I just started creating the bridges on the computer and was trying to figure this out while doing that. At that moment I had no one to turn to, no one to call, it was all up to me, if it had to be.

The only thought that ran through my mind was; So you want to be boss then, well prove it.

The worse part came, when one customer was bombarding one CSR with slander, he called me and asked if I could assist him. When I got there, I shook the gentleman hand and he let me have it. I listened and stayed calm, very calm, I was even amazed at how well I handled the situation. Then I told him what I would do, and he left. I again promised the world.

I got that guy shifted on to a new system, got the field techs to assist, must give thanks to the only female tech we have, she really helped me out. We had this guy strapped and moved in under an hour. I called him and he came and got the new box, he went home and his system was up and running. Later that afternoon I called him. he said all was working.

You know what was so amazing, to see that… no thanks was returned. In life we are eager to condemn, but seldom are we prepared to praise.

I was crunched for time, but I wanted to get this done as soon as possible, those guys kept calling me, and I kept telling them that I was busy repairing the network, not quite true, I was busy learning how to do the impossible. In the mean time I was helping everyone out, no complaints, everyone was getting what they wanted except the Government officials.

The Intern who is training with us was laughing and wondering how I would pull it off, I just went and deleted all the bridges, that left me no choice, and started to recreate them, I finished just 5 minutes shy of twelve.

That was a great feeling, the phone calls didn’t slow down, more problems were being reported, and as they came in I was getting them completed.

I must admit, that for all the years working with this company, these couple of days made me feel I like I worked for a lifetime. I was actually busy for the first time in my life for 8 hours each day.

What did I learn from this experience?

1. To always stay calm, and test your limits, you will be surprised what you can do when you don’t have anyone around to help you out.
2. Being the boss takes responsibilities to another level, you have to make decisions and make them fast.
3. I honestly learned how to motivate and get people to do the impossible, and how to believe in you.
4. The best compliment I got is when one of the field techs was working on a problem, he called me and briefly discussed the problem. I went to work and called him back and said you can leave now, it’s up and running. He laughed loudly and said, I told the gentleman I gave it to the best, he will make it work for you.
5. To be the boss, doesn’t mean you have to be a “snob”
6. Together we can get more done, and I have seen this, when one colleague who had requested to take the afternoon off, insisted that he would stay on to help. It really moved me. It won’t go unforgotten.
7. Many of the things that employees do go unnoticed

Point seven is my closing point and that is the one I would like to address, because nothing you do goes unnoticed. And when your doing something, do it from your heart, because what you give is what you will get. I know now, that I do give my all and that the people I work with respect that.

I will send an email of gratitude to all who assisted me in getting through these couple of days.

Thanks, I owe you all a bunch…

Before I close I would like to leave you with this: “Our fatigue is often not caused by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.”