Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

I have witnessed many times how people were complaining about what they lack or what is missing in their lives. If your lacking that means you not giving, it’s as simple as that. Any situation can be changed if you would only take the time to see it from another perspective.

You will have to open up and start giving to receive more of what your lacking, you and myself included often times put ourselves upfront and often do everything from the “I” in your case the “you” outlook. We seldom think on the other person or the people involved when confronting any situation.

Many of you complain of how the world is such a bad place, but do you know that you can’t change the world. However, there is one thing that you can do today that can change this world, and that is to start with yourself, change and improve yourself and you will make a difference in this world.

Today I want to give 50 questions that you should consider before ever complaining or blaming anyone again ever in your life. Following these 50 points alone is a sure way to improve your life, you will not find a better personal development method than these questions. This is a sure way to guarantee that you will be a better person if you ask yourself any of these questions and live by them:

1. Your spouse doesn’t say anything nice to you, but do you say anything nice to your other half? - It is a selfish act you have also been part of. Your looking at what your partner doesn’t do, but when was the last time you did exactly what you wish from your partner.
2. Your colleagues doesn’t smile with you on the job, but do you smile with your colleagues? - On the work floor, it is what you give is what you get. If you smile with your colleagues they will smile back, it is a simple action reaction process.
3. People don’t ever give me compliments, but do you give compliments to other? - A simple compliment will make anyone feel great. Practice giving compliments and holding back on the bad things you wish to say.
4. I am never greeted with a good morning, but do say good morning to people? - It doesn’t cost a thing, it is just a courteous gesture and it shows your mannerism. Start greeting people with a loud good morning, they will respond, and look forward to your good morning each and everyday.
5. My friend don’t say nice things about me, but do you talk nice things about your friends? - Self praise is no praise, let people tell you how nice you are, and practice talking good about your friends. They will do the same, no need to be a hypocrite.
6. People are always cursing me, but do you curse people in return? - Stop arguing and cursing with people, they will tend to treat you the same way, bitterness only gets more bitter attitude thrown your way.
7. No one brings out the best in me, but do you bring out the best in others? -It is only fair to say that when you try to improve people lives, they will try to improve yours. So try always to bring out the best in others and they will do the same.
8. My wife has never bought anything nice for me, but have you ever bought her something nice? - This is the biggest complaint amidst many couples, you don’t expect anyone to continue to treat you like a King while your not treating them like a queen. Spend more time buying nice gifts for each other on special occasions.
9. My children don’t understand me, but do you take time to understand your children? - Spend time listening to your kids, and really listen to their complaint. sometimes they are reaching out, but your not there. Stop! As parents, our children know what they want, and at certain times, we can better help them when we honestly listen and not try to pass off our own judgment before they are finished speaking.
10. People don’t listen to me, but do you listen when others are speaking? - Stop being so into yourself and always trying to bring over your own story. Conversations go better when you listen first, and then speak. Give them all the time to speak, you don’t have to always be in the lime-light.
11. We hardly ever communicate any more, but do you try to communicate with them? - Take time to listen, and spend time talking about topics your not truly interested in. Just ask questions, they will always wish to speak with you.
12. They don’t like socializing with me, but do you socialize with them? - Socializing is a very important part of life, the more friends, the better it will make you feel. Just be yourself and hang out with your friends. You can only get bored when you don’t have anyone to socialize with.
13. No one gives me any kind of love, but do you give love to others? - Fair is fair, if you want love, give love. So show love whenever you can and it will be shown back. To love is to be appreciated, and it doesn’t cost a thing.
14. No one respects me, but do you respect others? - I do believe this is one case where I give what I get, and I always respect those that respects me. If your not respectful, then I keep out of your way. But, I don’t ever let anyone talk me down and stay quiet, I will answer and move on. But, I do it with a little style.
15. No one shares with me, but do you share with others? - Many time I would hear my children complaining that no one shares with them, then I would ask; Have you shared with them? They would say, no. That explains that. It is only fair to share with those sharing with you. Teach your children to share at a very young age. They will grow up and understand that sharing is a nice part of life.
16. Society doesn’t contribute to me, but do you contribute to society? - If your talented in one way or another, no matter if you think your not, you can contribute by helping others out. Volunteer and share your knowledge. Society will reward you greatly, you will become known and many doors opens once you start contributing.
17. My neighbors don’t associate with me, but do you associate with them? - Don’t live in a neighbor hood and act as if your neighbors don’t exist. Spend time getting to know your neighbors.
18. They are not honest with me, but are you honest with them? - Honesty is the best policy, so be honest with all whom you know. Don’t bring on the truth in a harsh manner, throw in a little mildness.
19. My children are always holding back information, but do you always tell them the whole story? - Many parents try to show their children only the good parts of their lives. But, the truth will be told and I think they would rather hear it from you than from others. When I tell my children that I used to cheat in school, they would laugh and say that I was a bad boy. I try to be as honest as I can, and don’t pretend that I was a super genius. I tell them honestly when I don’t know. When they ask, I try to give them a answer. They like knowing about my past life.
20. No one ever shows me happiness, but do you show happiness to others? - Happiness deserves happiness, so if you want to be happy, show people how happy you are, and they will show you their happy side.
21. I am never appreciated, but do you show appreciation? - Please and thank you are some of the little words we take for granted. Show appreciation for even the smallest token that someone gives you. You first have to appreciate the small things in life, or the bigger things will never come to past.
22. My boss doesn’t communicate with me, but do you communicate with your boss? - Communication is a two way street, and if you don’t communicate with your boss, then why would he need to have any kind of conversation with you.
23. My coworkers don’t respect me, but do you respect them? - Show respect to all whom you work with, you have to agree with them. But, let them know in a decent way. compliment them first and them let them know how you feel about something. don’t hold grudges.
24. I just don’t know why my boss disrespects me, but do you respect your boss? - Your boss will disrespect you if you show no respect. So try respecting your boss decisions and do what he ask. if you don’t agree, try not to embarrass him in front of all the other staff.
25. No one close to me ever buys me anything, but do you buy anything for them? - Buy your close friends a gift, it doesn’t have to be expensive. It can be a book, a little ornament, a pen or something for their home. Be nice to your friends, and they will be nice in return.
26. They are all hippocrates, but your not? - Stop talking bad about people behind their back. It only belittles you, you should let them know how you feel about something, and not tell a friend, because that friend will tell another friend and it will get back to them.
27. They are always fighting with me, and your not fighting with them? - Stop picking fights, it’s not worth it. All the bad people I have known are either dead or in jail, because there will always be one person badder than you.
28. My friend all call me names, but I bet you do also? - Stop the name calling, it hurts. Some people love their life with a mouth filled with foul words and can find a name to call everyone, but call them a name, and they fly in a flurry and are ready to fight. Makes no sense, so why do it.
29. I am teased all the time, and I bet you tease also? - Everyone teases at some time in their life, but you should know when to quit. If you don’t want to be teased them you shouldn’t tease.
30. They are always using fowl words at me, and I bet you don’t use them? - I know many people that needs a mouth wash, I was one such person, but in a non abusive way. It is time to quit using fowl word, control your output, it doesn’t make you look cool or hip.
31. Everyone uses me and I bet you use them also? - I hate to see people using each other. Tit for Tat… Why can’t you do something for someone and not look back for a favor. If you do something for someone do it with a willing heart. And don’t ask someone to do something for you and when someone else asks a favor you say no, while you could have helped. He cheated on me, so I will cheat on him, get real your degrading your own life.
32. People always take me for granted, and I bet you take them for granted also? - Show appreciation when someone does anything for you, stop thinking that they have to do it. No one has to do anything in this life.
33. Everyone steals from me, and you don’t steal from them? - The circle of what goes around comes around, you steal from Jack to help Jill and Jill steal from Bill to help you. If you can’t afford it leave it alone. Your life won’t change because of what you wish to have. Don’t steal because you think they can afford it or won’t miss it.
34. My friends don’t help me when I need help, but do you help them? - Offer your help when you can, it will be appreciated and you can count on help when you need.
35. People seldom care for elders, but do you care for the old folks? - Your young today, but there will come a time when you will be an elder. Show respect and care for the elders you know, because when you grow old, you will have many whom will care for you.
36. Many people are not very friendly, but do you show friendliness? - Be a friendly person, smile more and show the world that your a fun person to be around. Let your friendliness shine through and others will show you how friendly they are.
37. My friends are always competing with me, and your not competing with them? - Stop the outward competing. If your neighbor buys a new car, that doesn’t mean you have to buy one. If your friend buy a 46″ flat screen HD-TV, doesn’t mean you have to buy one also (well I do want one of those, so yeah, I would get one if he told me he got it on a special price).
38. Many people are always complaining about me, and your not complaining about them? - Stop all complaints, and start paying more attention to yourself. Be a better person, keep yourself actively involved and that way you won’t have time to complain.
39. I am constantly being criticized, and I bet you criticize many other? - To criticize show lack of skills. Positive criticism on the other hand is welcome, and show leadership. If your going to criticize someone do it when they are present. And bring it over in a nice manner, not like it’s a brawl.
40. My friend are always creating confusion, and your not the cause? - If you not sure what to say, say nothing, but don’t continue to inject confusion and act as if your helping.
41. My friend likes me to do things their way, and you don’t want things done your way? - There is more than one way to do anything in life. Stop wishing for people to do things the way you say. It is only important to get it done, how, should not be your concern.
42. People don’t say thanks, but do you show appreciation? - Show sincere appreciation for anything that someone does for you. Say, “Thank You”, whenever someone does something for you, no matter how small, even when your paying for their service.
43. They are always gossiping about me, and you don’t gossip? - Stop the chit chat, and stop talking about people behind their back. If you have something to say, say it to their face.
44. My friends envy and jealous me, and you don’t? - Stop the envy and jealousy, if your friend buys a new car, show how happy you are, and be sincere about it.
45. No one ever gave me anything in life, and you receive to give also? - If you want to be poor, grasp, if you want to be rich give. Give more freely and give especially to the needy. Don’t let money control your life, give with an open heart.
46. No one ever says, ” I Love You”, and you refuse to say it? - To be loved is to be a giver of love. saying I love you doesn’t make you look small, or make you look like a weakling. Say I love You more often, to your children, your friends, your parents, your family and especially to your partner.
47. People just don’t show trust, and do you show how much your trustworthy? - I trust only those that show trust… but you will have to show trust first if anyone is to trust you. The best friendships are built upon trust.
48. No one shows me how loyal they are, and you have never shown your loyalty? - Show how loyal you are, show people that they can count on you. It is a great feeling to know, that you have at least one friend you can call and count on.
49. My friends are not kind to me, and are you kind to them? - Show your kindness by being kind to others. A kind face is a trustworthy face. Be kind to animals and your friends.
50. Nobody loves me, but do you love yourself? - If you want love, learn to love yourself first, and the world will have no choice but to love and respect you.