Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

Are you the type of person that lives daily thinking about what you need, and what is stopping you from being happy. Are you not satisfied or happy, because certain things are missing in your life.

The more you want and the more you say to yourself that once you get it you will be happy. The truth be told, you will never get it, and you will always be unhappy. You have to understand this concept and stop the wanting, and the negative pep-talk. What you have right now is what you desire and what you deserve. You first have to be happy with what you have right now before you can get more out of life.

Let me try to break this down, make it much easier to understand. You have to enjoy each day the Lord gives.

Let’s say your away studying, and all you do is study and you forget about socializing, making new friends, going out with friends, just enjoying yourself. You want to not do these things, because you have set your mind on your goal. The goal of finishing your school without failing any subjects or repeating a semester.

What happens daily, is you telling yourself that you will wait to enjoy life, and study hard now. Once you have that diploma, you will have enough time to enjoy life.

What you don’t know, is that you are missing out on life, your not enjoying the years while your studying. And what happens is that you loose all your social skills, and you gain absolutely no friends but the “dust” from the books. Your life is very boring, and it is no bother to you now, because your sticking to your plan.

Four years later…

Your on the podium, you graduated and have passed all your exams, you get all the honors and top awards, you passed “Magna Cum Laude”. When going up the podium to receive your diploma, you reflect on the passed four years, and realize, what you have accomplished. You then give this great speech, about what it takes to make it, and what you should do to make it.

The next day your back to the realm, all the adrenaline of passing has faded, you sit down to honestly reflect the past four years.

What you realized is: I have graduated and…. I am still not happy, I have no friends and no life.

You got it, that Diploma you so much desired, and you realize that your still not happy, so there is something wrong here. The problem here is that, you can’t put off your happiness, you have to enjoy life and at the same time set goals and stick with them. Study hard, but take time out to do the fun things of life.

It makes no sense accomplishing all those dreams to only end up a sad and unhappy person. Plan your life in your mind, set goals to accomplish those dreams, but enjoy each and every waking moment, because we can’t reverse the clock and enjoy our past, but we can reflect on the happy moments spent in the past.

Let me give you another example:

St. Maarten is the smallest Island, with the longest “Diamond Mile” in the Caribbean, and they have Millions of Tourist that visit this paradise each and every year. As seen, many of them plan their vacations, but, then you see many elder folks struggling and moving around with big bags as they manipulate their way in and out of those stores.

When you speak with them they say that they worked hard for years, and they are now enjoying life. I honestly don’t agree with that lifestyle, I think we should balance life, and save and enjoy vacations while we are still young, and with the family. They have saved, and now that their children are grown, they plan on enjoying their life.

I don’t know how much you can enjoy, when you are over sixty, while walking for hours looking at jewels. I believe in balancing life and in better planning. Commit to enjoy life while your strong and young, that way you will grow old, and be much happier. You can still take vacations with the family and they will be more fun even when your old.

And for those who can’t go on any vacations, then it still remains the same, enjoy life with what you have and what you can afford. If you see the 42″ Flat Screen LCD TV, and you honestly know it will make you happy, plan for it and go and buy it. Just don’t send yourself in dept for the simple pleasures of life, but do the things that will make you happy.

Buy the things you can afford, now.

Let’s analyze this situation together, and I bet you will agree. Today we will spend tens of thousands of dollars on a heart transplant. But, we won’t spend ten thousand on a stress free vacation, that would have prevented that heart attack.

You have to get away from it all, and take time out to think, stop waiting on that one thing that will make you happy, it will never happen. Happiness starts on the inside and it cost the less to achieve. Spend time alone, and reflect and make changes that will bring more happiness your way.

Stop this:

1. When I leave home, I will get away from my folks and be finally happy
2. When I find the perfect soul mate, then I will be happy
3. When I get a son, then I will be happy
4. When I get that new Job, then I will be happy
5. When I get married, then I will be happy
6. When I get a home with a pool, then I will be happy
7. When my sister says sorry, then I will be happy
8. When I finish my schooling, I will be happy
9. When I get that new car, then I will be happy
10. When I reach my potential, I will finally be happy
11. When I move to the MOON, then I will be happy

I can drag this list on and on, but it all reflects the same thing, you have to stop fooling yourself and thinking that there is something missing in your life. You are whole, perfect and complete, everything you wish or look for you already have… and that is good health and a powerful mind to accomplish and get all the things you wish, if you would only enjoy what you have now.

Stop the wanting, just enjoy what you have, plan for better and more, while at the same time enjoying your life.

Life isn’t getting any easier and the best way to move forward is when we have a group of like minded people working for the best and bringing out the best in each other. We have to start wanting the best for ourselves and for everyone else we know.

Being black is hard as it is, and a constant attack at each other isn’t helping anyone of us. Why can’t black people look out for each other? Why can’t black people build stronger ties in our community? I do believe we can, but the picture that we are painting today has to change.

Let’s try to see the big picture that is being painted today:

1. Making kids for many different men isn’t helping out, you got to see that there is something wrong with this. Today there are parents with four, five or more children all from different fathers. What’s wrong with that picture? They invented birth control with no color barrier, and still many are making babies like they are a bargain.
2. It is hip to wear you pants below the waist line, and walk like a duck. Man, get real, this has no face value to me. I can’t picture the top executives walking into a meeting room to negotiate a million dollar deal, with such a dress code. No one will take you serious. So why is our youth wearing their pants that way?
3. Education is available to all whom wish, yet, many of our black children are dropping out of school before the age of sixteen. Do we think that the future lies in becoming a professional Basket ball player, Football player or maybe a famous rapper (they all carry the trade mark of the “Drop Down Pants Syndrome.”) So why is our youth lacking in the school benches?
4. Our teenage girls are not getting the chance to even enjoy marriage, it is just all about sex, they are letting themselves be video taped by their so called boyfriends. Trust me, if he loved you that much, he wouldn’t be taping you, he would be too busy making love with you. If he wants to tape you, just ask yourself what he would do with that video once you and him are no longer together? Guess the answer is obvious! Something is wrong with the amount of videos of our teenage love struck youngster. Help me paint this picture. Why are they letting their boyfriends tape them? Haven’t they just seen the last one from someone in our community?
5. Teenagers getting pregnant at such a young age, it’s like children raising children all over again. When will the cycle stop? How can we change this picture, are we raising children so they can just get pregnant at a very young age?
6. Many of the children hanging out on the block, can’t even write nor read their own name if you snubbed it right under their noses. How will they ever be able to sign a check or get their own bank account, much less get a great JOB? Something is wrong with this picture, hanging on the block is not cool.
7. Young girls hanging out with a group of boys until late in the evening, I have seen this in my own neighborhood. don’t these youngsters have a mother or a father? This picture, let’s me to see that boys and girls hanging out late at night means, our own parental skills are lagging.
8. Look at the checkout counters, all we are seeing is young black girls, working for minimum wages. Will they grow up and start a family of their own? How can we change this picture and capture the better jobs that are available?
9. Parents attacking the teachers, is it the teacher fault, or is it the teachers responsibility to discipline our children?
10. Now, I am taking a great example from my little Island St. Maarten. Many of our youngsters are ending up in prison. Whenever a crime is committed they blame the foreigners, well, wake up people this is not true. Our prisons are becoming to small, they are filling up with black folks, and many of them are local Antillean kids. What’s wrong with this picture.

I can go on and on, and create a really big list, but I do think the picture has been painted, and I do know you see what I see, and understand where I am coming from. If you don’t then that means you have living with your eyes closed and not accepting the fact that we as black people are failing miserable.

At the time of this writing, Barack Obama is running for president, and he is a black man. Yes, we have come a long way, and we should be proud to see this. I am proud to have witness this event in my life, because it shows that some of the black people in the world are painting better pictures. But to few and too little to brag about. What is the first picture you think he would wish to change?

Do you think it’s Obama’s job, or our job to work together and starting pushing each other up the ladder. As black people we have to stop fighting and putting each other down. We have to stand up and unite and help each other improve. To make this world a better place, it starts with you, you have to change that picture that many of our black folks are painting, and it starts with you, not Obama or any other person.

We have to stop playing the blaming game and start facing our own responsibilities with open eyes.

We must become the change we want to see in the world… “Mahatma Gandhi”

We have to also start educating our kids and getting them to start striving for better in life. Change their mental image of what life is supposed to be like. Let them see that to be different is something great.

This is not a black or white issue, this is not a teaching problem, this is a problem we are facing daily and if we don’t start pushing each other up the ladder, we will find ourselves living in bondage again. Just enjoying the meager wages and living in the poverty stricken neighborhoods.

Let’s all change this picture, and do something today. A small change in our thinking and our attitude, will help propel more of our black people to do more and strive for more. Let’s start with the first change, and that is to change yourself, forget about changing the world or another person, just change yourself and that will enable just one more black person to shine, together we will make a difference.

If only there was a way to make life look so simple and easy, make it more understandable, make people understand how you think and why you do things the way you do them. Is there something like; Life Improvement Made Simple?

Can you really make simple strides in life that would improve your life for the better?

I wish that question was as simple as growing up and getting all the great things that life has to offer, but I can’t give no direct answer to that. All I can say is that you will make mistakes and do hope you will learn from your mistakes, but you can make life better, by enjoying the nicer things in life, and being a better person.

It doesn’t matter how old you are or what type of lifestyle you live now, your life can always use some improvement. At times I myself wish that I could come over more understandable to others and they would respect what I do, or see things the way I see it. But, at times I know that you have to take charge and do things that many won’t see eye to eye with, and those are difficult moments in life.

How do you deal with moments when no one understands you?

I should rephrase that question, it’s not that they don’t understand, it’s that they don’t see eye to eye or agree with what you are saying. Many people tend to live in a world where they believe in what they say, and they tend to care less about what others have to say.

In many cases like that, it is often very sad, because no matter how hard you try, or what you bring forward it will never make sense. You start to feel inferior, and give way to everything they sya or do, you seldom think your good enough and never bring forward what’s on your mind.

The best way to deal with those type of people, is to simply state what’s on your mind and never get into too much detail. Life isn’t about who is right from wrong. Life is about listening and I mean honestly listening to one another and giving the person speaking a chance to bring over what they are trying to say.

This is the first way to make simple improvements in life, it all starts with communication, and the way you treat others. Stop trying to be a Know-It-All. Just be a good listener.

A next point I would like to address is, the method of respecting one another. Respect is a big word, and I have seen cases where we tend to show respect, in such a form that it favors the one who believes everything they do is right. Nothing you do or say is ever good enough. That isn’t respect. I think respect goes way beyond dictating what you wish, or bringing forward your method for dealing with certain issues, and leaving it as that.

To be respectful, truly shows how much you respect others for their ideas or opinions. Everyone can come up with a great idea, and as such, you should truly show how much you respect others for the little things they do and what they say.

I have witnessed situations where many people stay hoping and praying for others to fail, and that is supposed to be something to be proud of. Wishing bad for others to glorify your wish or to prove you was right, is not in any form or fashion respectful, just because you don’t agree with what they have to say or did, doesn’t mean it was wrong.

You and I are responsible for the decisions we make, and those choices we make in life, will dictate the type of life we live. I do believe that once you stand firm and believe in the choices you make, may they be wrong or right, only you can adjust and improve life as you go.

The unknown awaits us all, and some of the decisions you make will not tend to work out, but like a ship at sea, you just have to adjust and stay on course, only you know what plans or goals floats around in your mind. Stay on course and follow your plan and all will work out fine.

Life is about improvements, small daily increments that will make your life better on a daily basis. The more you improve the stronger and a better person you will become. Just keep on improving and living the life you want to live.