Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

To be yourself means to be always positive on the JOB and at home. More positive influence at home will be worth it’s price in gold. Many times we try to be the most influential person on the JOB, and when we get home we show our children or our loved one the sign of tiredness. We try to not get involved with anything that is happening at that moment, it is as if we live in a different world than the rest of the family.

This is not right. To pretend to be a nice person when we are in town or visiting friends and family and when at home, you become the “boogy man”. You snap at the least annoyance, you seldom show your positive attitude towards the family and you always complain about being tired. If that’s you, then it’s time to kick that habit.

I honestly say, that you have to always be yourself no matter where you are. Stop trying to impress or act like your all that. No one notices you for what you pretend to be, they notice you for the things you do and the way you treat others.

We have a busy life on the JOB, and when we get home, it’s like the children rush you into overdrive. That should not be your break point, at that moment you should realize that they need a little attention and loving, that’s all. Give them the little time they deserve and try not to complain or take out your frustration on them. For all you know, they could have also been having a rough day, and would just like someone to talk with.

If you don’t try to understand them when they are little, then they won’t give you the time of day when they are grown.

Communication is the make or break point, when it comes to building a friendship with your children. Take time out of your day at home, and spend some time chatting or just watching T.V. with your children. Just do something fun, besides trying to act tired or act busy. Go play a little card game or some type of board game with them.

At this moment you might not see the importance, but the little time you spend with them when they are younger, will show the positive side of you and give them the attention they need. They will look forward to playing games with you, and will appreciate the time you spend with them.

At times we try so hard to be the best on our JOB, and when we get home our family members only know the negative attitude that you show. Try to be as positive at home and show that positive attitude that you have for your JOB also at home. And if your negative on your JOB, which I know you won’t admit, then bring that positive attitude from home to your JOB.

Simply showing respect to your children, is so important, and still so many parents neglect that. Be a role model for your children, let them model you, they will, even if you think they are not. Your children looks up to you, and if your not the parent you wish to be, then your guaranteed that your children will be confused, and will have many of your behavior traits. You can influence your family in a positive way or in a negative way, so why not choose the best way.

It really pleases me to hear my son ask me; ” Pops, how was your day?”

I always explain how it was, and then I talk to him about certain things that took place on the job, and he always laughs, and he gives me little bits of his own way of how I should have approached those situations. That really makes me smile. And then I ask him; “And, how was your day at school, got any bad grades today?”

We tend to jump into our own little conversations about school, and I enjoy those moments.

My daughter on the other hand, seldom ever ask, but she jumps straight into game playing mode, and always picks a game she would like to play. At that moment I tell her not now, and after I do what I had my mind set on doing, I then have some fun time.

I do wonder if those bosses that are always showing the worse attitudes on the JOB, have fun at home or do they go home and show a positive attitude. Or is it that they are controlled at home and need to express a sense of power when on the JOB.

Please let me know your point of view, on this, because I really want to know if these type of people have fun off the JOB, because they surely don’t show any positive sides on the JOB.

Do you think a Boss with a nasty attitude, has a different attitude at home?

The key to happiness and a better life starts with trust, your relationship is based on trust, not money or anything else matters when it comes to being happy or having a loving relationship. The more trust people have for each other, the happier and longer they will live together and the more joy they will see in their life.

When your ill, you can only get better when you believe in yourself and your own ability that your body has to heal its self. That is also based on the trust factor. The power of mind and body working together can heal any sickness, but you have to trust and believe in the healing power that all of us are born with. So it all boils down to trust, the more you trust and believe the more your body will improve and the healthier you will get.

When your having a bad day, it all boils down to you trusting that your day from that moment on will get better, if you don’t trust your own ability to have better days, nothing will happen.

Now, let’s talk about the trust in building healthy relationships. It is easy, but many of you are scared to love and build a long lasting relationship. You go into a relationship thinking that it will fail, and trust you me it will. The next thing you do is go into a relationship with the idea of changing your partner, it just can’t and won’t ever work. When you met that person, you met them with a certain attitude, it was that attitude that you fell for, so why try to change them?

Building a trustworthy relationship takes time, and patience. You have to believe in each other, and trust each other. Do the things that your partner loves. Bring out the best in each other, make your partner feel special.

As time passes, many relationships dwindle like a rose slowly fading away, first the niceness, then the loving moments and soon after that the passion. What happened? How did those two that used to love each other grow so apart? It actually starts when you stop paying attention to each other, no one wants to do for the other, both are hiding the trust they used to have in each other, each partner is now waiting for the other to do something nice. Well, you know what? No one does anything, and like the rose that doesn’t get water, your relationship doesn’t get affection, the rose dies, and so is it with your relationship.

What happened, how can things go from great to horrible in such a short time?

That is the easy part about relationships, even friendship, and I should state that both of you lost touch, your friendship lost importance, you two are living like strangers now. To keep the flames burning you also have to realize the importance of communication. Any relationship where no one is talking, even about the simplest topics of the day, will fade away slowly.

An important point to consider here is that circumstances creates the greatest opportunities.

Today while talking to a friend she mentioned how ill her sister is, and she told me that it is really bothering her. You could have seen it in her. That is very sad, but it is times like this that brings you two closer together and really shows the power of trust. She will have to trust her own healing powers and you will have to believe that your sister will get better. She stated that these things happens to show how disconnected she became and that t was time to slow down and start enjoying life. Your task now is to cast blessing onto your sister, each and everyday.

In every happening or sad event, the reasons are not always very clear, but it does create and open many doors for things that we didn’t consider. You have to always try to see even a sad event like this one she is facing now, as a positive happening.

At moments you would question; Why her?

And for the same reason, I would say; Why not her? You nor I can predict what will happen or why it happens, but one thing we do know for sure, is that trust and our beliefs is what will get us through the rough times and make us stronger.

As you may have noticed, I never take anything for granted, and I try to see the positive of everything, which I know isn’t easy for many people. But, I wish you and your family strength and I do hope that your sister pulls through this. One thing I learned is that when your ill, you should watch a lot of comedies, it will take her mind of the illness, and get her into a healing mood. Laughter is the simplest cure for the soul.

Trust is the Miracle cure, it can heal the weak, make any relationship better, overcome any obstacle and bring happiness to your life. If you would only learn to trust, trust in God, or whoever it is you worship, trust your partner, trust your parents and at times trust your friends. The more trust you have the more happier you will be.

When you have trust, everything has more meaning, and your outlook is much brighter.

Trusting your own ability

I want to share with you an experience I had a couple days back. I got into a conversation with a customer about a situation that they were dealing with. They explained the problem they were having, and I honestly had no clue what to do.

As always, I trusted my work ethics and said to myself that I will solve this. I spoke to them and asked a couple questions. I then told them what I think would work. They honestly said they had no clue what I was talking about and asked if I could come by and help. I told them that I believed in their ability to get this working and that I would guide them.

I guided them over the phone, and without really and honestly understanding what I was doing solved their problem.

When I got off the phone, my colleague was listening to me, and I told him how surprised I am at times to find a solution, when I don’t fully grasp what I am doing. He told me that he himself is shocked to see my ability to solve such complex situations over the phone. I told him, well I learned it from you. And, that is the truth, he does that exceptionally well, and I just believe that if he can, so can I.

Believe in yourself, and trust that you have the power to work miracles and make things happen. Life is about trust, and your happiness will improve once you learn to trust and miracles will happen when you trust, just believe, and look for the best.

I had a week-end of much joy and sorrow at the same time. I attended a funeral of a very young colleague/friend and that intrigued me to write this article. At some point in your life you will be confronted with many decisions, some that effect your judgment and your thinking. You will be held captive by your own mind and you will not know what to do or how to deal with the problems your facing. It is then that you will need to stop thinking so much and start living.

If you look at someone from the outside, it always seems great, but when you really get to know someone you will discover the many problems that they have been dealing with on a day to day basis.

Stress creeps in when your not looking and it is the cause of a problem so severe that it makes you ill. It is actually your mind that is making you ill. You have to learn how to speak your mind and stop thinking so much. You should not build stress because your trying to be a very nice person and not hurt anyone feelings. Your hurting more than you think, when your afraid to speak your mind.

The nicest person and the most quiet person you know is always thinking and afraid to say what’s on their mind. You do yourself more harm than good by not speaking out.

Fact is, you believe that by not saying anything you won’t hurt anyone, your actually hurting someone very close…

…yourself.

Why is it important to say what’s on your mind?

I myself has been in situations, where I did not speak my mind and I have seen the problems it caused. But the problem was not caused by what I did say. it was caused by what I was constantly thinking of, what I did not say, and how I began to avoid certain people because I just wanted to keep out of their way and stay as far away as possible.

The solution I choose was no good, because I spent more time thinking about what I should have done and never took the time to really correct that problem. I went on with my life, but now, I have guilt feelings for not saying what I wanted. I honestly know the method I chose was not solving anything, and as time went by, I just left it alone. Today that problem is still lingering in the air, and I don’t think it will matter anymore, because the damage has been done.

I could have simple said what I wish, but I choose instead to walk away.

Here is the reason why: At times I felt the moment wasn’t right, but you know what?

The moment of speaking your mind never came, and I know how hard it is when my mind dictates, but the truth is that when you speak out, you get to hear others point of view, and that is the loss, I never really heard what they where thinking.

Spend more time living and less time…

thinking about the things that doesn’t make you happy. It is all about being happy. All the money in the world can’t make you happy. If you only learn to analyze and do things differently, you can really enjoy a much healthier and wealthier life.

As grown ups, we tend to lie, because we are afraid to hurt another persons feeling, but the one we are hurting is ourself. I am sorry, but the lies creates even more problems, and makes you live a more confused and hidden life.

When someone under 40 dies of a heart attack, it should make each and everyone of us think. It made me wonder what caused this and why should someone so nice go so soon? The answer may be right in front our nose, but at times we are so caught up in our own world that we fail to see the cause.

The bottom line is, they have never really started to live, never enjoyed life, left many loved ones behind, and that’s because they have been worrying so much about what others think of them and never saying what’s on their mind. So in all honestly, being a little self-fish and thinking of yourself first is a good thing.

Many times this friend told me how much she hated her boss, but never once did she let him know. Why?

I just wished I could answer the why, but, I do believe she should have. Because this boss showed up to her funeral, to show his deepest respects. That leads me to another point…

Do you believe that he was showing his respect?

I do believe he was. He would call her all kinds of names, insult her, degrade her and yet she would respect him no matter what. I am not that nice, I believe in speaking my mind, and when I speak, I do it nicely, but the style of wording that I use hurts. I don’t bend the truth, I just say it in a nice manner, nice enough for you to realize that you can’t say what you please to me, because I will let you know how I feel.

Makes you wonder, why we treat others in such a nasty inhumane manner and believe that we are doing them good.

If your not trying to instill greatness in someone or make them feel better about themselves, then just don’t say anything.

Now a word for the wise:

Spend more time loving yourself and others, and less time thinking about love. Just say something nice or do a nice deed every so often. As the years go by, many relationships become very bitter, each waiting for the other to do something nice, and in the end both of them suffers and no one wins. It is do or die, love each other or walk away. No ifs, nor buts. Love is about trust, and I will have to go into this one more deeply.

I have heard many people saying your thoughts are so powerful, well believe it or not, your thoughts have absolutely no power. You create your thoughts and what you do with them is what gives them life.

I believe your much better off controlling your thoughts, and not assuming what others are thinking or saying.  The only way to know this, is once you think or hear something about someone, confront the person and let them know how you feel. You will be surprised that your the one who has ill thoughts most of the time.

I am also not saying that every thing can be talked over, some people are to stubborn to even consult with. In that case just let it be and don’t think about it. Be nice to them and try not to show your ill feelings, don’t ever live one day of your life bittered by someone deeds.

Enjoy each day, and make the best of it! 

A great gift you have is the ability to make your day before you live it.

Your going to love this. Plan your day ahead in your mind, see a nice day and ignore the problems that your facing. Don’t even think about them. A solution will come to mind once you don’t dwell on the problem. Make each day worth living, make new friends, just be more friendly. Your days will only get better.

Now go out there and live life to it’s fullest, enjoy each and every day and be thankful. You don’t know when it will be your last.