Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

This blog is creating quite a roar and I am honestly shocked by the response that I have been receiving from certain people. The truth be told, about the why and how this whole blog came to past.

I got a idea, and I bought a couple of domains. I had this domain www.AlexanderMarlin.com with my own name just there redirecting to certain simple sites. I wanted this domain name to stand out, and after reading a couple blogs and other peoples web sites the idea for “Life Improvement Tips For Thin And Small People” was born. This is what this website was all about and will continue to improve upon.

The Critics, The Emails, The Comments And Their Views

I am in now way trying to be little or harm anyone with the content being published on this blog and as you may have noticed I have removed certain articles. I know not everyone will agree with my style of writing, but I am not here to please anyone nor have I been trying to bring down anyone.

At certain moments in time while I am here sitting on my computer and my fingers is going mad striking away at the computer, I write my notes. sometimes I edit my writing and at other times, I just let it flow and hit the publish button.

I honestly respect the comments and the responses this site has been receiving and I thank all who see, read and like or are motivated by what I write. I am honestly shocked to see how fast the news has spread about this site, but then again, I understand because this not your ordinary everyday St. Maarten boy your talking about.

As for the critics, I have received one email stating that a “Shrink” has made comments explaining that she sees me as suicidal based on one of the messages I have so far removed form the site. I must say this, you have no clue who I am or what I stand for. You should wish to meet me one day, because I have nothing but joy and a nice smile that carry me through this world. No offense, I love and inspire my kids daily, what type of role model would I be if I was planning on killing myself. Thanks for being a critic, your the type of educated people I was referring to in my post, “Most Educated People Have No Skills“, because you are showing me exactly why I believe educated people make judgments and simply lack vision.

Why I Removed The Articles

As I wrote before, growing up as brothers we were one strong family and while living in Holland we had a message made that read; “When Love Is The Message The Marlins Are The Messengers”. Many people loved that slogan, I can’t recall who came up with it, but we surely lived up to that slogan. My writings was not meant to hamper or bring down my Bro’s, I was just showing how we grew up and made a life for ourselves.

My brothers had a meeting with me and they explained to me what they didn’t like and I told them that I would remove the post, but I must state this: “Readers, and this goes to my brothers also, stop reading between the lines, read the full article, there is a lot of truth in my words, stop feeling offended. I am not here to hurt or make anyone look small.”

I know my Mom understands me and I know she knows that I would in no way put her down or try to harm her parenting skills. As I stated before, she did it her way and her only wish was for her kids to be educated and powerful men that would be respected.

I wonder what she would have done with her daughter if she had one?

OK, enough of that rant, let’s see where this blog is heading…

The Future Of This Blog

I am planning to really continue to instill in skinny, thin and small framed people the power to continue to shine no matter what your size or height. I believe that anyone can be a great person, as it all start within and by the amount of love you have for yourself.

If you don’t love yourself, then I would advise you to start reading this blog on a daily basis, because you can’t get anyone to love if you have no self LOVE. That four letter word packs a lot of power, and to love yourself is what keeps us from self destruction. One you have an endless love for yourself and you strive for nothing but the best, then you will have what it takes to be loved.

At certain times during the day, my mind is very clear. I make it a promise that when I am working I focus on my JOB, but once I am on my way home, my mind starts racing with excitement. I am using all my energy to come up with another topic that will boost my self and show the quality of this blog and the power of my words.

To end this post, I have a couple words to say; “I will always remain who I am and no one can change that, but I have been growing on a day to day basis. For my readers, please continue to provide the comments and the emails, send me questions if you wish and I would be more than glad to write about it, I will keep your name hidden from the public. I will not be using anyones name on this blog, because I am here to inspire, not slander.

I am no shrink, I can’t read minds, but I do follow my heart and try to do onto others and treat others like how I would like to be treated.”

Stop being a follower, step up your game and face your problems in a tactful manner, let people know what you think and stop living in a shell.

On a daily basis we hear many complaints about all the things that isn’t perfect in their life. The sad fact is that we spend our lives complaining and not counting our blessings. So it is only fair to say that we have to be thankful for what we have now, otherwise we will never be able to attract anything better in our lives.

The things we get in life can only be appreciative if we are thankful for receiving what we have. Many of us are not thankful and that is why we face hardship on a daily basis. I would just like to show what all I have to be thankful for.

I would like to say thank you:

1. To my Mom for bringing me into this world, I know it was hard on you raising six boys all alone, but you did it your way, and I love you for that
2. To my father for giving life to this little hard to understand boy. It is your genes that made me this way, you know why we can’t see eye to eye, but I love in my own way, it’s just that we can never find a topic to talk about
3. To my wife, for giving me three lovely kids and sticking with all the hard times I put you through. I know our life isn’t a bed of roses, but I love you anyway
4. For life, without life there would be no me, and no inspiration to all that I am today and all that I will be tomorrow
5. To my six brothers, we are all different in each and every way possible. I wish you all the best in life, and do hope we continue on as brothers
6. For giving me my son, Alexander Junior, he isn’t the easiest kid to deal with, but he has a great hearts, and I do wish to stay alive until he is a grown man, because I know greatness awaits him
7. For my daughter Imani, when she was just three years, she said she wants to be a Doctor. Bless her and let her become the greatest and most caring Doctor this world have ever seen.
8. For my little Iovana, she is a handful, my Mom says that she was here before, she is years ahead of her age group. Bless her with wealth and good health. for she deserves only what her heart desires
9. For my lovely home, we have been living in for 10 years now
10. For the Jeep and car we drive today, it shows you that when you plan your life good things comes to you
11. To Moshe and Sharon from Dimaond International for giving my wife the job she has, your two great people don’t leave St. Maarten change you too much
12. To Telem for putting up with my attitude and boldness, I have grown with your company and the time is soon coming when I will venture out on my own. I do owe you all much for my existence
13. To Clievy a.k.a “The Wildman”, a true and trustworthy friend, many don’t understand you, but I know a good friend when I see one
14. To all the teachers through the years that put up with me and made the person I am today, you have shown me the light and I did well
15. To the many family members I know and have shared great Moments with and to those I don’t know, wish to meet you all some day soon
16. To Miriam Fleming a.k.a “Baba”, I know you just had a serious car accident, but the great person you are can’t be silenced by no car accident. Wish you a speedy and healthy recovery.
17. To the many friends I have and the many friends I have left behind in Holland
18. To my cousin Alexis, we shared great moments together when we live in Holland, your a great person, say hi to Mariella and the kids for me. On my last visit you had two. How many do you have now?
19. For my health, I am a thin person that is fit and healthy, my life will only get better
20. To all the students you sent my way that I have shown how to be a greater person and that have been influenced by my “Math Skills”.
21. To Nicole, you was the last student that I helped with Maths, you did great kid, hope you will shine in life. I will miss your sad face, but I know you have confidence, because you passed through a home filled with love.
22. To all the colleagues I have worked with through all the years, I have always shown respect and you guys have always respected me.
23. To Perci for now taking me under your wing and teaching me all you know about networking. I will become a great IT specialist like yourself, because you really are the best.
24. To Mr. Monsanto for giving me a chance to work with you, I know now what hard work is. You really push me to my limits, but I am strong and can follow. Keep pushing, I am getting better and stronger
25. To this wonderful Universe, you have given and given and I continue to grow and prosper. My time has come to give back, and that is what I do with this blog. I will help you all grow and prosper by publishing nothing but helpful articles.
26. For the wisdom you have given me and the courage to build this blog
27. To all the readers of this blog, without you all this blog would not continue to grow and get better and more insightful with every post I make
28. For giving me the skills to be always frank and honest in everything that I do
29. To Steve Pavlina at stevepavlina.com, you inspired me and that is how I got the courage to go out and build this blog
30. For the air that I breathe, that keeps me looking young
31. For the brothers and sisters I have on my father side, William Lake a.k.a Buba, you are the one I always got along with best, hope your doing the right thing
32. To my brother Donny, you was always my Nr. 1 bro, I believe in everything you stand for, your words and wisdom shines on it’s own. You guided me through the years. A Double thank you.

Last but not least, I am thankful for being my self and for not following any wrong practices or bad people and only wanting the best for myself in this life. I am what I am today, because of all the people I have met in my life. You have all influenced me in many more ways than you know. Thanks.

Life is what you make of it, start being more thankful for the things you have, no matter how small or unimportant you may think it is. Life only gets better once we start to accept the little things that are being offered.

This was one of those horrible days in my life that has affected many people on the Island of St. Maarten and still affects my own relationship and many people whom I don’t even know, that I just had to get it off my chest.

Life is so full of surprises that sometime it shocks the heck out of you and all you do is wonder why, I have one such surprise to share with you all that will leave you stunned, and it surrounds this good looking dark thin guy by the name of Shev, my brother in law, one that I always believed would have made it far in life. For years now he has been in a on and off type of relationship with Estella. I really can’t say this was a relationship because he used to treat Estella as if she was never around, they would seldom have any fruitful conversations when ever I saw them together. They seldom spoke, at least that was what I noticed. But they had a beautiful little daughter together, her name was Isis. She was really a lovely little girl, one that captures the heart of anyone she knew.

I would never forget the talks me and Estella used to have, some of them was when he was visiting at my home. I would tell him, that I just don’t understand why you two are together, it is as if your good for only a week and then you guys are back on the war path. They were like two north poles of a magnet. They seldom had great moments together.

I was never really aware of all the problems they were facing, but I heard some stories from Estella concerning the way he used to treat her in Holland. It was as if the two of them was in such a horrible relationship from their school days. Anytime you confronted Shev about why he did those things to Estella he would just laugh it off.

They had plans on going to live together and I told them that it made no sense, I asked them why would they want to live together and they seldom even talk. Some how nothing ever got through their thick skulls, they started to make plans to go and live in the home from my Mother in law. That created problems and somehow it never happened.

I told Estella, that if she was my daughter, I would hit her over the head with a brick. She once had a serious bruise on her hand, and told me she got that when they were arguing, I told her that is physical abuse, girl I truly don’t understand why you would put up with this.

One day as we were speaking I asked Shev, if he would like someone to do onto his daughter the exact same things he is doing onto Estella. He became silent for a moment and then said; “No”. I honestly believed that things was really going downhill fast and the two of them decided to split. This was not the first time they broke up and parted, somehow they always came back together. And would start the fussing and arguing all over again.

The Tuesday night confrontation

One Tuesday night, I saw my wife, her Mom and her brother Shev having a chat concerning his relationship with Estella. They were convincing him to try and treat her nice and win back her love.

At that moment I jumped in and said, I am shocked that your trying to get back with her, because you always treat her so bad. And said, that you know once a women doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore it is very hard to get her back. He said, I have no problem with that I am cool with the whole situation. He said that if he wasn’t cool with it, he would really hurt her new boyfriend. It seemed Estella had found herself a guy she really loved and they were going really steady.

I asked, what would you get from that?

I told him that you would have many more guys to hurt all your life, because life goes on. He then said she can go on with her life, it’s all good. Well, it all seemed that he was coping great with Estella leaving him.

He was just driving around all alone on Election Day

That Friday was election day in St. Maarten and we all decided to go and vote and hang around the voting boot in South Reward next to the Milton Peters College. Me and my wife went with the kids and cast our votes. While there I ran into my brother Donny, and he came and chilled with us.

While there we saw Shev pass up and down the road three times driving in his car. I asked my wife what her brother was up to, it looks like he is lost. She then told me that he was having a hard time dealing with his broken relationship. She also said that they were looking for a shrink (Psychiatrist) that will help him get over this.

I had no clue it was really that bad, he looked great in my eyes, and he was also dating other women. No one really paid much attention to this whole ordeal, because on this island of St. Maarten breaks ups are a common thing.

The day the clouds burst and blood fell from the sky

It was getting kind of late and the darkness was setting in, we all parted and proceeded to home. It wasn’t even a good 15 minutes after we got home that my phone rang.

I got a call that evening around seven that made me sick to the stomach, all hell broke loose. I will never forget this day, as I answered my phone, Sandra told me that Shev had just shot a guy and jumped in his car and drove away from the scene.

I told my wife, and she began to cry and break down, she fell to the ground. I held her up and she said she has to go by her Mom. I drove her to her Mom and I was very speechless. As we got there, the news had already reached her Mom, she was also crying, everyone was devastated. I asked if anyone called Estella. But, I guessed they were grieving and no one was thinking of little Estella and the devastation that she witnessed.

My phone was ringing off the hook and I was hearing all kinds of stories as to what happened. The more I heard the more bitter it made me. He shot Richard eleven times, while Estella was standing right there, clinging onto him. Not once, but eleven times he shot him. I just can’t picture what she went through. I took my phone and called her phone, she didn’t answer.

The whole family was very worried, and me and Marvin (Shev’s brother), decide to go and look for him. We drove to all the places we think he would be, but didn’t find him. As we were heading home, we heard that they found his car, and drove by the scene where his car was located. It seems they found his cell-phones and a bunch of beer cans and a couple empty tablet bottles. But, no good was found, none will ever be found also.

As we got back to my wife mothers home, my phone rang, it was Estella’s best friend. She told me that she is really taking it hard and can’t speak. I told her that I have no words to offer, just tell her to be strong for Isis.

Around midnight that evening Estella called, and she was crying hysterically and said; “None of them called, your the one who isn’t even related in any form or fashion, and you called”.

I said, this is tough on everyone, and if she would like to speak to one of them. She said, no, they don’t care, they never called. I don’t want to speak to no one right now. My ears was ringing, because all I kept replaying in my mind is her cries. It was really touching. I just didn’t know what to say. How could this happen, I never pictured this happening in my life.

What went wrong here?

Why wasn’t he telling anyone about his problems?

How could it be that no one knew of his plans?

Was he so over the edge and no one noticed anything?

All kinds of questions ran through my mind, all were unanswered, at that moment I knew how bad this would get. the whole family was devastated. Two families affected by one person deeds, this can’t be real.

That evening I got little sleep, the next day was Saturday, and we got a call later that they found Shev, wondering around in Belvedere. The police took him in and no one was allowed to see him for a couple days.

He was very toxic, and was taken to the hospital and placed under protective custody, where they weer allowed to bring clothing for him.

Turning the blame away from the shooter

One thing led to another and from there my life turned a living hell, I heard my wife’s Mom say how Estella was to blame because she was having an affair with both guys. That really made me sick, and out of respect I didn’t really say what I wanted to… but, I told her her that doesn’t give him the rights to shoot anyone.

It was as if they were trying to blame Estella for what happened here. Well, when my wife came home that day, I tried too explain her what is going on here, and told her what your Mom is saying is wrong, I don’t acre if Estella was a hooker, your brother took someone life.

She was totally in full agreement with her Mom, I told her please remember that what your saying here is that if your daughters should meet a someone sick like your brother that it alright for him to take her other boyfriend life because they broke up.

This was even the worse part of it all, Richard’s family also turned their back on Estella. she was going through this ordeal all alone. The blame was shifted, and I just can’t figure out what was happening here.

My home became a battle ground

There was no reasoning left in my home, my wife believed in her brother. I was witnessing for the first time in my life how people try to cover up there own family wrong doings.

What are we teaching our own kids here, when we try and protect them even when they are wrong. Is it much easier to pass the blame?

My mom always raised to prove right from wrong, and she turned in her own kids once when there was a case where a lot of the youths in St. Maarten was joy riding rental cars for fun.

This whole story was getting really bitter, because Shev was saying that he can’t recall what actually happened. My own opinion doesn’t count here, but I am not falling for that crap. It is impossible to not remember, and have no clue what you did with the gun. If the gun was discovered I would have easily believed that story.

From that day in January, my family life has changed, there is no trust amidst us anymore. All during this whole ordeal, I was trying to keep my kids calm, and explain them that what there Uncle did is wrong. No matter what people say, when you take another persons life, no one is to blame but the shooter.

I went behind my wife back and took my kids to see Estella and Isis on Christmas Eve. My kids were very happy to see Isis and Estella, and I was also glad to see them. All I can say is Estella is made out of stone. She is a real strong person, and I do hope you don’t let anyone abuse you like that again in your life.

What a life of growing pains

Form the time I knew Estella, she was always saying that her whole life was always filled with sadness. When she was younger her father died, and Estella was raised by a adopted family. I have met her adopted family and they really gave Estella a life, and they are really nice people. Her Mom lives in Holland, but for some reason or the other never wanted to take Estella with her. I have never heard the reason why.

Now she was faced with this tragedy, her life was a mess.

I told her one day, stop crying, your pain and suffering will pass, but Shev life will never be the same, and all of us will hurt because of his deeds.

The lesson here is that we have to learn how to stand responsible for our acts and think before we do and think of the people we will be hurting before we do anything ridiculous in life. Many families are hurting because of your actions, and no life lost can ever be regained. This was unjustified, and it goes to show that what we think about all day long is what will affect our minds.

We will never ever know what was going through Shev mind when he pulled the trigger, but a life was lost, and Estella was blamed for the whole thing. Some Mother’s turn away from their own kids wrong doing and forgot that they themselves is just a woman and physical abusive is not needed to solve your problems.

I can honestly say for the first time that I now truly understand what they mean when they say: “Blood is thicker than water“.

I have witnessed first hand how a mother tries to protect her own son and pass the blame onto someone else. Are we supposed to protect our own kids wrong doing?

My life will never be the same, because a dark cloud brews over me, my family and my wife. We don’t communicate like we used to. We can’t ever discuss her brother, because she sees things totally different than I do.

Shev got sentenced nine years, and when they appealed he got an extra three and a half years.

What made him do it will remain a mystery, and he will have to deal with his own conscience and guilt, and see how he will continue with his life after that. I don’t know if I can ever face him and pretend like all is well.

It saddens me to see how Shev’s family life has changed, they were always a family that stuck together. He did a selfish thing and left many hearts broken. That will always leave a big scar on the family heart.

I am also sorry for Richard’s family, because he was really a great kid. I have never known him, but everyone who did and even Estella spoke highly of him.

Estella, I am sorry to see what you went through, and I do hope you find happiness in your life. You didn’t deserve what you got, all you was looking for is someone to love.

Life will never be the same for all whom was affected by this horrific act, I do hope we all learn that violence isn’t the way out. Your hurting more people than you can think of when you commit such evil acts. Both families has been affected and even Estella and her family.

To forgive and forget, but can we really get this out of our minds?