Life Improvement Tips For The Wise Few

I have worked in many departments within this company, and I now fully understand the mistakes many employees are making that are keeping them back, especially new employees are still on a trial period.

1. Spending too much time on the phone talking with friends and family

Have you ever seen that many employees just don’t care about how much time they spend on the phone. You walk up to a counter to pay your bills and the cashier just continues to talk on her cell phone like your not even there.

The secretary spends more time consulting with family and friends than she does with complaining clients. The boss is also observing your behavior, you will only hear about it when it’s time for evaluation. Another aspect I always admire, why do they have evaluation systems anyway? Many managers only evaluate you based on your last month performance, just before evaluation.

Learn to respect your job, and tell your family members that you will call them back when you have a break.

2. Spends all their time complaining

This is the number one killer in most companies, it is the amount of time the so called top workers spend complaining. They complain about everything, and no matter what you give them to do they find issues to complain about.

The best case I have witnessed, is when one colleague started complaining about her boss and how her boss never appreciates nothing she does. A minute later the boss steps in, and I said well now is your chance to approach him about your issues. She never did.

What’s the use complaining if your not going to face the boss. Spend productive time doing, and when anyone starts to complain just listen, don’t give any advice, you’ll be adding more fuel to their complaint lists.

3. Is never on time for work

The punch schedule of certain employees are so amazing that they don’t have a clue that they are always late. But, they are the first to leave for lunch, and the first to leave at the end of the work day.

If your coming to work late every morning, why not set your clock fifteen minutes ahead of time. That way you can leave on time, just don’t focus your mind on the fact that your clock is fifteen minutes ahead, just rush to leave at the same time you did before every other day.

4 . Complains about their salary is not enough

One employee does nothing but file papers, and they wish to have the salary of an Engineer. They rant all day long they are not paid enough, not ever realizing they signed the contract when they were looking for that job for the salary they now have.

If your complaining that your not being paid enough, then I think it’s time you start a home business. Do something extra to make up for the extra cash you need. Don’t complain about money, that isn’t going to help you.

5. The tail of many chiefs and not enough Indians

Everyone is a manger and everyone is giving commands, but nobody is taking the time to carry out their own functions. Have you seen how one employee has every other employee on that department in the palm of their hands. They get nothing done the right way, because they pass on every assignment they are giving to someone else.

Stop assigning your work and complaining, spend some time doing your own chores and less time chatting with everyone on the department.

6. Not following direct request from their managers

Start studying you manager style of management. You will be surprised to see that once you have figured out your boss, you will be able to deliver everything exactly the way they want and likes it.

7. Not listening enough

Are you a quick draw Mc. Graw, always quick to answer, but never listens. I was and it stunted my personal growth and my attitude showed. I was always good at solving issues, but a very bad listener.

If we would only learn to listen more than we speak, then we would all be moving up the ranks within our company. Stop seeing it as if you work for the manager, your working for the company and doing what’s best for the company will give you many pay raises.

Listen more, and come up with ideas that the company can use to grow. You will be amazed that the complainers never have anything good to say, and can never come up with any solutions. Give a complainer everything the wish, the highest salary and they would still complain.

Just be an active listener, and really observe what everyone else is doing, and you do the opposite. You will be surprised to see how much more your manager will appreciate that new approach.

Give mild criticism, and only do if you have a better idea that will solve the problem at hand. I was a victim of such myself. I had great ideas, but I never had a nice approach and would bring every idea forward in a hostile manner.

Lower your vice, pause when you speak, and present your idea. Act professionally and don’t let anyone intimidate you. Take your time from now on when speaking, listen first and then… pause before you answer.

If life comes full speed at you, would you just duck?

We all wish it was that easy, but let’s demonstrate today how tough it is growing up in a society where Moms and Pops work two jobs, kids are left alone at home to vend for themselves.

A Teenager Struggling To find Her Place In Society

About a year ago, I had a student coming by me for extra classes in maths, she had a very bold type of attitude, she dressed as if she was angry with the world. As she sat down on the table where we would begin our first math lesson, I glanced at her and asked, you look like your carrying the world on your shoulders. Tell me whats wrong?

She answered very swiftly with a grumbling sound, I could hardly make out what she said. I told her that we can’t have any type of success with that type of mindset that your showing at this moment. For you to succeed you will need to change that attitude and adapt a winning attitude, one where I can see how badly you want to pass your exams, and that’s the only way you will get it.

Months went by, and she kept coming to classes on a weekly basis, one day she said this is the first time she has actually had the courage to speak out. She told me that: “She used to cut her wrist and was actually thinking that she would be better off dead.”

Well, I was stunned, I had no clue that such a young girl would be thinking on suicide. As months went by, I kept feeding her positive ideas and showing her that she can make it. I told her that for every bad deed you commit in life, there is at least 10 people who loves you that will hurt.

Her attitude changed slowly every passing week and she was really going for gold, all her grades were up and we were getting ready to take the final exams. All of a sudden she showed up one day with her eyes filled with tears, and told me that her brother told her she is wasting her time and that she would fail again. Her step father told her that she won’t ever pass and leave this Island, she would be stuck right here.

Determination That Guarantees Success

Well, I was so shocked, I told her well I guess your parents and your brother had no clue how determined I can be with anyone who wishes to achieve more out of life.

What was more confusing to me is that these people were paying for my services and they were putting her down at the same time.

I asked her one question: How badly do you want to pass?

Well, the answer was enough to make me push her to the brink of exhaustion, we would go over every subject she had, I was giving her extra classes in subjects I had way back in high school. I told her that if she failed, I would also feel like a failure. And we pushed on and on.

The day of exams came, and her bro delivered his first punch and told her, we are looking forward to the tears.

There is a little secret I failed to tell at the beginning, which I eventually should have said. This girl had failed this same exam twice before. Where do you get the skills to pass something that you have failed twice before?

I was very scared that she wasn’t going to pass Biology, because she was very weak in this subject. But, I just couldn’t show it. Deep down in my soul I was hoping that she would pass the other subjects and that we would do the second exams in Biology.

If You Fail, Just Try Again

The results was in. She was scared, their was a delay in giving her the results. And she got totally rude and abused the examination committee. Man, when it has to go wrong it will. she called me that day, and explained what happened, I told her that she has to go and write an apology letter, and deliver it in person to the committee.

Her attitude was getting the best of her, and she didn’t even know it, her parents couldn’t even control her, because they didn’t know how to talk to her.

A couple days later, the results were finalized and surprisingly she failed, but was given a choice to do a re-examination in Biology or Dutch. Wow, what a call, her parents told her to go for Biology, and she told them she has to ask me what I think.

I told her parents, she sucks for Biology, there is no way she will ever pass that subject, we can still pass if she would only score 60 percent for Dutch. So, she did do a second exam for Dutch.

She got a call a week later, and her face glowed like a light-bulb. She passed and was leaving this Island to further her studies. She smiles form her first victory, many more to follow, once she keeps her focus.

Will power, and focus with the right guidance is what makes success a very easy ritual.

Parenting Is Not A Skill We Were Born With

Many parents today don’t grasp what it takes to bring kids into this world and nurture and encourage them to be the best they can be. We are faced with many teenagers going to prison on a daily basis. But, who should we blame?

The honest truth about the neglect many kids are feeling is so wide spread that it amazes me that many parents can’t see that all these kids want is a little love and attention. Be patient with your kids, you was once a teenager, you know what to do, you have walked this road before. You know that buying expensive gifts isn’t what makes them be better kids.

Communicate more often with your kids, spend time playing simple games, have fun and let them practice their speaking skills with you, that is what creates leaders in our community. Kids that have been able to speak out from young are the strong leaders of today.

Stop letting strangers guide your kids, it should be family members that has the most influence. Family should stay together and build stronger bonds.

The truth be told: There are no fast balls thrown in life, so your kids can’t duck, but there is a scarcity of love and communication, so throw some love and affection, they can catch that.

That phrase has been one I always wanted to understand, and for good gold I still don’t understand why they call any type of lies “little white lies”. Once you lie it’s a lie, and I just don’t care what you call it.

In the Netherlands there was “Santa Claus” and “Zwarte Piet”. Translated it means Black Pete, another black and white association where they associate Santa Claus as the white person and “Zwarte Piet” as the black and evil person. Another very famous statement, and a well known one is that when a black cat crosses the street in front of you, you will have bad luck.

OK, I know you must have used these two yourself, I myself have. Your in my “Black Book” or your on my “Black List”.

What about the “The Pot Calling The Kettle Black”.

These are all well known phrases or cliches, all well known around the world. But the one that I really want to touch on today is “little white lies”, because I think it’s an excuse that many people live by.

Why didn’t they have a statement like “little black lies”, or is that so hard to imagine.

My guess is that would have been seen like a deadly sin, so that is why that phrase never came to life. Why do they always have to associate anything good with white, and anything bad with black.

One of the best behavioral concepts that you would need to adjust to first improve your life is to ditch the white lies, you won’t need to bend the truth. Honesty is still the best policy. I have always tried to be as honest as possible, but did tell my fair share of white lies and sometimes I always wonder why I did.

Compulsive Liars

Why do we lie or bend the truth a little?

Is it that we are afraid to be caught in a lie, or is it much better to lie and get away with it? One who lies and continue to lie, will have no choice to live a life filled with lies. Your life will never be full-filled and you will never get anything you want out of life, but another lie.

Little white lies, is a phrase conceived to help us get away with telling lies. That is a phrase you should scrap from your vocabulary and learn to always face the truth no matter how bad it is. The truth will set you free.

Your Memory Can Recall Lies Better Than Truths

Have you ever witness the power of your mind as far as many of your lies stretch. It is very strange, but please put a little effort in this for one moment. I want you to think back on the first lie you told. Really focus on it. And Then associate it with one when you was caught .

How does that make you feel?

I can bet my last dollar that it still makes you feel bad, and it shows you the power of bad influence. What you feed your mind is what will grow, lies can’t grow. They manifest into shame and more hidden guilt. Stop the lies and the next time your using a phrase, try and see if you associate it with something bad or your just saying it because of what it means.

Let me give you one little black lie that has me bothered me and that my mind always goes back to. When I was studying in The Netherlands, I came to St. Maarten on a vacation and went up for my drivers license. I passed with flying colors, and on my first try.

But, before I did that I was trying to pass my drivers license exams in Holland, I just couldn’t get it to go. I failed and that was when I went to St. Maarten and got my license.

I came back to Holland after my vacation and decided that I would go for my second trial. It was free anyway, but with no commitment or serious effort I went for my second trial. I failed again, and that really bothered me, because I just got my drivers license in St. Maarten and couldn’t get it in Holland.

Well, one day my big brother asked me where I got my license and I said in Holland and my brother Donny busted me, I really felt stupid, but for good griefs and up to this day, I just can’t figure out why I lied.

Was it because of my desire to pass for my drivers license in Holland?

I just can’t answer that one, but since then I have been very honest with myself and very opened to whatever they ask me. I have adapted a new policy, and that is to not give any details if I don’t want. That way I won’t have to use any little white lies.